In bygone days, especially in culturally evolving countries like India, the notion of a woman venturing beyond her homeland typically entailed traditional roles—marriage, motherhood, or leisurely travels. Yet, as we traverse the modern landscape, a significant paradigm shift has emerged. Today, families throughout the land support women embarking on journeys beyond borders not merely to fulfil societal expectations, but to pursue their professional aspirations with a fervor unparalleled in history.
The resonating echoes of Bollywood’s iconic mantra – “Jaa Simran, jee le apni zindagi” (Go Simran, live your life) reverberate through the records of cultural transformation. No longer are Simrans restricted to the confines of domesticity with their Rajs, but are encouraged by their families to venture forth into the vast expanse of the world, to seize opportunities and shape their destiny in ways unimaginable to previous generations.
The only twist is that these Simrans now have the opportunities but may not necessarily have the required life skills. These translate into multiple chapters of self-discovery as follows:
Chapter 1 – Intentional Survival
In the realm of life’s essentials — roti, kapda aur makaan (food, clothing, and shelter) —women often find themselves navigating a terrain fraught with societal expectations and personal aspirations. Yet, amidst this journey, do these roles truly resonate with the essence of who we are? When we dare to question every facet of survival, from the simple choice between dining out or preparing a meal at home, to the deeper considerations of cultural identity in our wardrobe selections, we embark on a profound exploration of our inner selves.
For instance, would you eat out every day or start to perceive cooking, once relegated to the realm of chores, as a sacred act of alchemy — a mindful ritual wherein you infuse ingredients with intention and transform them into sustenance for both body and spirit? Each meal becomes an opportunity to nourish not only oneself but also one’s connection to the divine, as we honor the gifts of nature and the abundance of the earth.
Similarly, our choices in clothing take on a deeper significance. Would you like to blend in or do your wardrobe selections become expressions of your cultural heritage and individual identity?
And in the sanctuary of shelter, we discover a newfound appreciation for the comforts of home and the efforts of those who have provided for us. Whether we choose to share our living space with others or cultivate a sense of solitude, our homes become sacred spaces—refuges where we can nurture our bodies, minds, and spirits.
Shelter introduces its own set of complexities. Whether to share living quarters or reside independently, the decisions extend beyond mere accommodation to encompass choices regarding furnishings, utility bills, and the responsibilities of maintaining a household. In navigating these decisions, a newfound appreciation for the efforts of parents and homekeepers inevitably emerges, underscoring the importance of familial support and domestic stewardship.
Oh, and let’s not overlook the fact that this journey, though centered around life’s essentials, is distinct from the dreams and aspirations you’re truly passionate about. Perhaps, amidst these contemplations, you will unearth your identity —a revelation that transcends societal norms and guide you towards the fulfilment of your deepest desires and aspirations.
Chapter 2 – Embracing Work Culture
With the expanding expatriate community worldwide, a vibrant interchange of work practices and ideas becomes evident. Consider, for instance, the varying emphasis placed on work cultures across different countries. While some prioritize control and mastery in the workplace, others prioritize friendships at the workplace and the ability to catch-up in communal spaces.
Now, imagine a scenario where these diverse cultures converge, bridging gaps between countries with contrasting work norms. In such a scenario, individuals hailing from environments where long work hours are the norm may find themselves amidst a culture shift. Excellence is recognized and valued within the team, and the realization dawns that work is but one facet of life—a means to an end rather than an end in itself.
Chapter 3 – Health Is Indeed Wealth
As expats navigate the process of reinventing themselves in a new environment, they often face a rollercoaster of emotions. This journey manifests the theoretical concepts of emotional intelligence and self-awareness from HR trainings to reality. Amidst this whirlwind, the importance of maintaining both mental and physical well-being becomes crystal clear.
Can one truly afford to neglect one’s health and fitness while living alone in a foreign land? Is it sustainable to endure prolonged anxiety or depression in such circumstances? These questions, coupled with the sights of individuals running on streets at any hour of the day and vibrant full gym scenes, inevitably prompt reflection on one’s sedentary lifestyle and its potential consequences.
Chapter 4 – Re-Discovering Passions Beyond Work
Amidst the newfound freedom and abundance of time, one is faced with the task of defining one’s ultimate purpose beyond the confines of work. This canvas of possibilities invites introspection and prompts the question: How will you craft the narrative of your life?
Numerous inquiries arise, including:
♦ What significance does exploring your new surroundings hold for you? Where would you venture? Are you open to solo adventures?
♦ As a woman, are your career decisions driven by a desire for equality with men? Do you genuinely derive fulfillment from your chosen path?
♦ Have your hobbies remained unchanged, or have you discovered new interests to enrich your leisure time?
♦ Were your past routine choices a product of personal preference, or were they influenced by societal expectations left unquestioned?
Through contemplation of these questions, relocation serves as a catalyst for discovering one’s true identity. Over time, clarity emerges, illuminating the essence of who you are at your core.
Chapter 5 – Inevitable Zen Mode
Various spiritual traditions espouse the concept of “mindfulness”. In our familiar home environment, however, we often slip into an autopilot mode, operating unconsciously.
Relocating to a new country jolts us from this state of complacency, compelling us to engage fully in the present moment. In this unfamiliar setting, we are forced to be mindful, as the differences in culture and surroundings demand our attention. Living overseas offers an opportunity to experience each moment with heightened awareness, free from the burdens of past regrets or future worries, embracing what Zen philosophy terms as “Zen time”—the ever-present now.
Chapter 6 – The RCM of Life
RCM, or Risk Control Matrix, is a crucial tool in internal audit used to identify, assess, and mitigate risks within an organization’s processes. It serves as a structured framework for evaluating the effectiveness of internal controls and identifying areas of vulnerability to potential risks.
Following relocation, individuals are presented with a prime opportunity to reinvent their lives, akin to crafting a personal RCM. The journey of living independently outside one’s home country often prompts a transformation of identity, necessitating a comprehensive evaluation of various life aspects. Through introspection into career, health, relationships, and personal growth, individuals can gauge their satisfaction levels in each domain. By identifying areas of imbalance or potential risks, proactive steps can be taken to fortify internal controls and mitigate vulnerabilities.
Isn’t it remarkable that the families of so many Simrans have broken the generational chains and entrusted them to follow their own path? As times continue to evolve, marked by technological advancements and climate change, it will be interesting to observe how we can offer support and encouragement to the generations that follow.
About Miral
Miral is a Chartered Accountant, working with the Business Advisory practice of a prominent Consultancy Firm. Beyond her corporate role, she is a practicing trained classical dancer and enjoys creating art during leisure hours. Driven by a quest for knowledge and spiritual growth, she is an avid reader and traveler having explored more than 10 countries.
With prior experience in Forensics and Investigation Services in India, Miral has transitioned her career into Advisory Services in the UAE in recent past. In the above article, she shares her firsthand insights and lessons learned from her relocation journey.
Miral can be reached at mmajamundar@gmail.com.
