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In bygone days, especially in culturally evolving countries like India, the notion of a woman venturing beyond her homeland typically entailed traditional roles—marriage, motherhood, or leisurely travels. Yet, as we traverse the modern landscape, a significant paradigm shift has emerged. Today, families throughout the land support women embarking on journeys beyond borders not merely to fulfil societal expectations, but to pursue their professional aspirations with a fervor unparalleled in history.

The resonating echoes of Bollywood’s iconic mantra – “Jaa Simran, jee le apni zindagi” (Go Simran, live your life) reverberate through the records of cultural transformation. No longer are Simrans restricted to the confines of domesticity with their Rajs, but are encouraged by their families to venture forth into the vast expanse of the world, to seize opportunities and shape their destiny in ways unimaginable to previous generations.

The only twist is that these Simrans now have the opportunities but may not necessarily have the required life skills. These translate into multiple chapters of self-discovery as follows:

Chapter 1 – Intentional Survival

In the realm of life’s essentials — roti, kapda aur makaan (food, clothing, and shelter) —women often find themselves navigating a terrain fraught with societal expectations and personal aspirations. Yet, amidst this journey, do these roles truly resonate with the essence of who we are? When we dare to question every facet of survival, from the simple choice between dining out or preparing a meal at home, to the deeper considerations of cultural identity in our wardrobe selections, we embark on a profound exploration of our inner selves.

For instance, would you eat out every day or start to perceive cooking, once relegated to the realm of chores, as a sacred act of alchemy — a mindful ritual wherein you infuse ingredients with intention and transform them into sustenance for both body and spirit? Each meal becomes an opportunity to nourish not only oneself but also one’s connection to the divine, as we honor the gifts of nature and the abundance of the earth.

Similarly, our choices in clothing take on a deeper significance. Would you like to blend in or do your wardrobe selections become expressions of your cultural heritage and individual identity?

And in the sanctuary of shelter, we discover a newfound appreciation for the comforts of home and the efforts of those who have provided for us. Whether we choose to share our living space with others or cultivate a sense of solitude, our homes become sacred spaces—refuges where we can nurture our bodies, minds, and spirits.

Shelter introduces its own set of complexities. Whether to share living quarters or reside independently, the decisions extend beyond mere accommodation to encompass choices regarding furnishings, utility bills, and the responsibilities of maintaining a household. In navigating these decisions, a newfound appreciation for the efforts of parents and homekeepers inevitably emerges, underscoring the importance of familial support and domestic stewardship.

Oh, and let’s not overlook the fact that this journey, though centered around life’s essentials, is distinct from the dreams and aspirations you’re truly passionate about. Perhaps, amidst these contemplations, you will unearth your identity —a revelation that transcends societal norms and guide you towards the fulfilment of your deepest desires and aspirations.

Chapter 2 – Embracing Work Culture

With the expanding expatriate community worldwide, a vibrant interchange of work practices and ideas becomes evident. Consider, for instance, the varying emphasis placed on work cultures across different countries. While some prioritize control and mastery in the workplace, others prioritize friendships at the workplace and the ability to catch-up in communal spaces.

Now, imagine a scenario where these diverse cultures converge, bridging gaps between countries with contrasting work norms. In such a scenario, individuals hailing from environments where long work hours are the norm may find themselves amidst a culture shift. Excellence is recognized and valued within the team, and the realization dawns that work is but one facet of life—a means to an end rather than an end in itself.

Chapter 3 – Health Is Indeed Wealth

As expats navigate the process of reinventing themselves in a new environment, they often face a rollercoaster of emotions. This journey manifests the theoretical concepts of emotional intelligence and self-awareness from HR trainings to reality. Amidst this whirlwind, the importance of maintaining both mental and physical well-being becomes crystal clear.

Can one truly afford to neglect one’s health and fitness while living alone in a foreign land? Is it sustainable to endure prolonged anxiety or depression in such circumstances? These questions, coupled with the sights of individuals running on streets at any hour of the day and vibrant full gym scenes, inevitably prompt reflection on one’s sedentary lifestyle and its potential consequences.

Chapter 4 – Re-Discovering Passions Beyond Work

Amidst the newfound freedom and abundance of time, one is faced with the task of defining one’s ultimate purpose beyond the confines of work. This canvas of possibilities invites introspection and prompts the question: How will you craft the narrative of your life?

Numerous inquiries arise, including:

♦  What significance does exploring your new surroundings hold for you? Where would you venture? Are you open to solo adventures?

♦  As a woman, are your career decisions driven by a desire for equality with men? Do you genuinely derive fulfillment from your chosen path?

♦  Have your hobbies remained unchanged, or have you discovered new interests to enrich your leisure time?

♦  Were your past routine choices a product of personal preference, or were they influenced by societal expectations left unquestioned?

Through contemplation of these questions, relocation serves as a catalyst for discovering one’s true identity. Over time, clarity emerges, illuminating the essence of who you are at your core.

Chapter 5 – Inevitable Zen Mode

Various spiritual traditions espouse the concept of “mindfulness”. In our familiar home environment, however, we often slip into an autopilot mode, operating unconsciously.

Relocating to a new country jolts us from this state of complacency, compelling us to engage fully in the present moment. In this unfamiliar setting, we are forced to be mindful, as the differences in culture and surroundings demand our attention. Living overseas offers an opportunity to experience each moment with heightened awareness, free from the burdens of past regrets or future worries, embracing what Zen philosophy terms as “Zen time”—the ever-present now.

Chapter 6 – The RCM of Life

RCM, or Risk Control Matrix, is a crucial tool in internal audit used to identify, assess, and mitigate risks within an organization’s processes. It serves as a structured framework for evaluating the effectiveness of internal controls and identifying areas of vulnerability to potential risks.

Following relocation, individuals are presented with a prime opportunity to reinvent their lives, akin to crafting a personal RCM. The journey of living independently outside one’s home country often prompts a transformation of identity, necessitating a comprehensive evaluation of various life aspects. Through introspection into career, health, relationships, and personal growth, individuals can gauge their satisfaction levels in each domain. By identifying areas of imbalance or potential risks, proactive steps can be taken to fortify internal controls and mitigate vulnerabilities.

Isn’t it remarkable that the families of so many Simrans have broken the generational chains and entrusted them to follow their own path? As times continue to evolve, marked by technological advancements and climate change, it will be interesting to observe how we can offer support and encouragement to the generations that follow.

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About Miral

Miral is a Chartered Accountant, working with the Business Advisory practice of a prominent Consultancy Firm. Beyond her corporate role, she is a practicing trained classical dancer and enjoys creating art during leisure hours. Driven by a quest for knowledge and spiritual growth, she is an avid reader and traveler having explored more than 10 countries.

With prior experience in Forensics and Investigation Services in India, Miral has transitioned her career into Advisory Services in the UAE in recent past. In the above article, she shares her firsthand insights and lessons learned from her relocation journey.

Miral can be reached at mmajamundar@gmail.com.

We leave digital footprints wherever we travel in the digital realm. Every word we write, every post we share, and every location we reveal leaves a trail in the vast expanse of the digital world. Whether we acknowledge it or not, every post, photograph, or opinion we share contributes to shaping a distinct image of a Personal Brand that becomes associated with our online presence.

Our digital presence has become so prominent that information about us precedes our physical arrival at a place. It’s almost as if our online persona has its own express delivery service working for it! With a lot said about ‘Personal Brand’ and ‘Digital Presence’, let’s briefly understand what signifies a ‘Personal Brand.’

Your Personal Brand is basically how people choose to remember you, your personality and your unique qualities that make you, “YOU”.

Why is it necessary to build your Personal Brand and believe in yourself as a Brand?

⇒ Over the years, the primary means of passing knowledge, learning and experience throughout mankind has been storytelling. This has been achieved through verbal communication, scriptures and artwork in locations now considered historic.

⇒ Crafting a personal brand cultivates consistency in action, subsequently building credibility and trust amongst others, where they can expect a certain standard conduct from you.

⇒ It also fosters self-belief, empowering one to pursue their aspirations with conviction and confidence.

Why is Digital Presence crucial across all age groups, irrespective of the fact whether you are a young professional, an accomplished senior professional or a budding entrepreneur?

Let us explore the importance of being digitally accessible and digitally connected:

⇒ Climbing the Career Ladder: A strong digital presence on relevant social media platforms can help to exhibit your learning, skills, and experiences across your genre of work. It gives one the exposure to showcase relevant skill sets along with the potential for upskilling in your current profile.

⇒ Content Sharing: Sharing knowledge through content has become very convenient with just the click of a button, ‘Start recording.’ This easy way of sharing enables individuals to create and disseminate information effortlessly, adding to the ocean of knowledge available at the fingertips. The barriers to sharing information nowadays are negligible and the outreach to global audiences is now better than ever.

⇒ Strategic Networking & Community Building: Building meaningful relationships by nurturing your network, participating in discussions, sharing valuable insights and community building on common grounds with like-minded individuals supports personal as well as professional goals.

Building on a personal brand through online digital presence is essential in order to enhance your knowledge, fuel continuous learning; it also opens doors to new opportunities by fostering inter-generational learning and mutual collaboration and benefit.

What are the viable means of being digitally present?

Social media platforms have billions of users worldwide, making them highly effective channels for digital presence. While video content is incredibly engaging and effective in capturing and retaining the attention of the audience, podcasting is rapidly growing as a medium for content consumption. Creating valuable content through articles, blogs and other such formats can assist in establishing expertise and attract engagement in a consecutive manner.

Some of the means of being digitally present are:

⇒ Social media platforms and professional networking sites
⇒ Personal websites, blogs, and newsletters
⇒ Email marketing
⇒ Video content and live streaming through webinars, panel discussions etc
⇒ Podcasts
⇒ Online courses and education platforms

How can combining passion with personal branding and a strong digital presence set someone apart?

Passion backed by purpose when combined with your authenticity and projected through digital platforms can be a game changer in attracting and retaining your relevant audience.

⇒ Passion drives genuine enthusiasm and authenticity, making your interactions and content more engaging and relatable, thereby building a stronger connection with your audience.

⇒ Personal branding, fueled by your passion, highlights your unique skills, experiences, and perspectives, distinguishing you from others in your field.

⇒ Consistent visibility ensures that your brand and message reach a wider audience, enhancing your visibility and influence in your niche.

⇒ Leveraging digital platforms allows you to showcase your passion and expertise, attracting opportunities for collaboration, partnerships and consequently, professional growth.

Some examples of passion-driven communities or groups that one can find online or in the vicinity include running clubs, book clubs, photography groups, gardening societies, art collectives, music ensembles, coding meetups, trekking clubs, fitness classes and many more.

Some useful tips for beginners, amateurs and those wanting to leave a mark in the digital arena while capitalizing on their Personal Brand:

⇒ Clearly identify and focus on your area of expertise or passion to attract a targeted audience.
⇒ Actively respond to comments, messages, and discussions to build relationships and trust.
⇒ Participate in online forums, webinars, and local events to expand your reach and make valuable connections.
⇒ Highlight what sets you apart from others in your field through your personal story and experiences.
⇒ Partner with established influencers or organizations active in your niche to gain exposure and credibility.
⇒ Create and distribute valuable resources like eBooks, guides, or webinars.
⇒ Use images, videos, and infographics to make your content more appealing and relatable.

One book worth reading is “Crush It!: Why NOW Is the Time to Cash In on Your Passion” by Gary Vaynerchuk. The book emphasizes the importance of leveraging digital platforms to turn your passion into a successful personal brand. Vaynerchuk provides practical advice on how to harness the power of social media, create valuable content and build a dedicated audience. With a focus on authenticity and hard work, “Crush It!” is a motivational guide that encourages readers to follow their passion and create a strong, influential online presence.

To conclude, a strong digital presence is essential at every stage of an individual’s career. It enhances visibility, showcases relevant skills, and opens doors to new opportunities. Social media platforms allow individuals to share knowledge and build strategic networks. Engaging in online communities and creating valuable content can establish one as an expert in their field with consistent efforts in that area.

Combining passion with personal branding and a robust digital presence sets individuals apart by highlighting their unique skills and perspectives. Passion drives authenticity, making content more engaging and relatable, which builds a stronger connection with the audience.

I wish all the readers a Personal Branding journey filled with growth, success and maximizing your digital potential!

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About CA Renu Shah:

Renu has over a decade of work experience in Accounting, MIS, and Budgeting, as well as Project Management and Strategic Leadership in her previous roles. An avid reader of self-help books, with a passion for continuous learning, Renu has cultivated a unique blend of financial acumen and soft skills proficiency throughout her career journey. She has recently transitioned to provide her learning and expertise gained in the areas of Personal Branding, Soft Skills and Strategic Networking while engaging with different stakeholders through teaching and consultancy.

From traditional classrooms to digital learning environments, the generational shift in student life reflects broader societal changes and technological advancements. While the traditional classroom era was characterized by face-to-face interactions and reliance on printed materials, the digital age has ushered in a new era of education marked by instant access to information, online collaboration, and personalized learning experiences.

A few examples of generational shift in student life include:

a. Learning Environment:

Present: Many educational institutions offer online courses and resources, providing flexibility in learning and access to a global network of educators and students.

Past: Learning was predominantly confined to traditional classrooms, with limited opportunities for distance learning or accessing resources outside of school.

b. Work Life Balance:

Present: Students today often juggle academics with part-time jobs, extracurricular activities, and social commitments, leading to a more hectic lifestyle.

Past: While some students worked part-time jobs, there was generally less pressure to balance multiple responsibilities, allowing for more leisure time.

c. Study Techniques:

Present: Students may utilize techniques such as online tutorials, interactive learning platforms, and educational apps to supplement their studies.

Past: Studying involved more traditional methods such as flashcards, handwritten notes, and group study sessions.

d. Focus on Mental Health:

Present: There is a greater awareness and emphasis on mental health issues among students, leading to increased support services and resources within educational institutions.

Past: Mental health issues were often overlooked or stigmatized, with limited resources available for students seeking help.

e. Access to Information:

Present: With the internet, students have instant access to a vast amount of information, making research faster and more convenient.

Past: Students had to rely on encyclopedias, physical books, and other printed materials for information which could be time-consuming to find and access.

Live Example: Research Method – Then vs. Now

In the past, students had to rely a lot on physical things to glean information. When they needed to research something, they would go to the library and look through card catalogues and piles of books to find what they needed.

These days, students use the internet for their research. Instead of going to the library, a quick search on websites helps fulfil the purpose.

AI – The Game- Changer: Artificial intelligence (AI) is revolutionizing the contemporary landscape, fundamentally altering the way we operate and innovate.

In the past, students learned in the same manner in the class. But now, with AI, learning is more personalized. AI helps teachers understand each student better, so they can teach in a way that works best for the student. It is like having a smart helper in the classroom! AI also makes learning more fun with cool technology, like virtual reality. So, instead of just reading books, students can experience them in a whole new way. Overall, AI has changed education by making it more flexible and exciting for everyone involved. In India, AI is making a big impact too. It is helping teachers better understand each student’s needs and even handle administrative tasks such as like admissions and grading.

But there are some challenges too, like students relying too much on AI or using it to cheat. Schools need to be careful and use AI responsibly to ensure that no one abuses the power of AI. Overall, AI is a game-changer in Indian education, helping create a better learning experience for all.

The Benefits of Understanding: Understanding the generational shift in student life is imperative for parents, professors, teachers, educationists, policy makers alike.

⇒ Improve Teaching Practices: By understanding the differences in student experiences across generations, educators can adapt their teaching methods to cater to the diverse learning preferences of today’s students.

⇒ Preserve Cultural Heritage: Reflecting on the evolution of student life over time is also important for preserving cultural heritage and collective memory.

⇒ Frame Appropriate Educational Policy: Recognizing how student life has evolved over time can inform educational policy makers about the changing needs and preferences of students.

⇒ Support Student Wellbeing: Awareness of the challenges and pressures faced by modern students, such as information overload, digital distractions, and mental health issues, is essential for providing adequate support and resources.

In essence, knowing the generational shift in student life then and now allows us to adapt and evolve our educational practices, support systems, and societal norms to better meet the needs of present and future generations of students. As we reflect on the changes, let us embrace the positives and look forward to a future where every student can thrive, equipped with the skills and support they need to succeed in a rapidly changing world.

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About the author –

Dhwanil holds a Global MBA in Finance from S P Jain School of Global Management and finished a certificate course in Forensic Audit from GFSU. With nearly 9 years of experience which also includes working in the Forensic and Fraud Investigation department of a Big 4 firm, and in the Audit and Assurance department of a large Indian firm. He enjoys traveling and exploring new ideas. He is a regular contributor to the journal of the Vasai Branch of the Western India Chartered Accountants Students Association of ICAI. He has recently launched his own consultancy company. He can be reached on djjhaveri7@gmail.com

“Good morning, thangam!” a voice rang, accompanied with his customary cough. (thangam means gold in Tamil). My thatha – my grandpa called out affectionately to me, sitting in his favourite armchair placed in the left corner of the veranda, in front of our house. This was his morning ritual, reading the newspaper while simultaneously sipping his morning tea.

I responded, “Good morning, thatha!” It was a pleasant Sunday morning – I had managed to get a few days off amidst my hectic articleship days and had dashed off to my hometown to spend time with him. I sat beside him on the floor, with my coffee cup, pulling out a section of a newspaper from the stack arranged before him. While reading the newspaper, as usual, a lot of questions came to my mind. I did not need to Google or surf online. Because the man sitting on the armchair is my very own Wikipedia. Shooting tonnes of questions is a natural habit of mine – answering them patiently, one after the other, was his. Thatha would pick up a particular news item which, according to him, would be useful to me. That is how he injected the habit of reading newspapers in me!

Gradually he started to inquire about my work and workplace, “How is work?”, he asked.  “All good, thatha”, I replied in an unconvincing tone. “What makes you give a confused reply, thangam?” he gently asked. Without a second of hesitation, I poured out my heart to him. “I miss home terribly, thatha. I miss our family terribly. I miss you terribly!”, I cried. “Sacrifices are essential for you to achieve your goals, thangam. Coming out of your comfort zone is the real game of growth”, he quoted. “What is the point of having goals and growth in this uncertain life, thatha?” I asked. “Oh! That was deep – let me try and answer that”, he said.

 “To have a goal is to stay focused. An idle mind is the devil’s workshop. If you are sincerely working towards something that you feel is important and honest, the positivity you feel and radiate is priceless. Who said goals must be higher and bigger? All you need to consider is, are you happy in the process? And you need to suffer at times to realise how precious the gift of happiness is. Life is a balance of both, thangam”, he added.

How could this man have apt answers for every single question? – my mind voiced to me. Be it doubts or my accomplishments. The first person within my family I would share these with, would be him. He would get more excited than I would, witnessing my triumphs. Whenever I shared my achievements with him, my family knew what would be his reaction – they could give anyone a running commentary without even having witnessed the event. Each time, tears would roll down his cheeks and he would rhythmically tap his thighs, to express his emotions.

Once, I narrated to him an incident where I was appreciated for moderating a motivational session. After his customary response, he wiped off his own tears and asked, “How are people out there?” “People?….” I dragged, “Yeah! They are good, thatha”, I added.

He looked at me with love in his eyes and said, “People are different, thangam. You may like some and dislike others. But learning to tackle people – now that is an art. Your world has widened now. It is not just our family anymore. Make conversations and explore different minds. Do not get attached though. Someday we are all going to leave our bodies. There is no point in attaching ourselves to people and material things, which are the root cause of all major suffering. Be who you are and not a reflection of what they are. Amidst a lot of negativities in the world, be a person who spreads positivity and love. If you give love without any expectation, it will come back to you in unexpected ways, thangam. Trust me!” he said.

It took me a few seconds to realise that I was not in a philosophy class anymore. “Sure thatha!”, I replied. I felt truly blessed having this one person in my life who would give me proper answers, even though their questions were unasked.

Suddenly, I remembered that my tuition teacher, who had taught me during my school days, had invited me over to her house. I told my thatha of my decision to visit her sometime in the next week – the reason being laziness, which both of us knew.

“Life is too short, thangam. Everyone has a very limited time. Life is unpredictable! Who knows what will happen the next minute. Embrace the present. Just live the moment! Do not make your people wait for you ever. Else, the regret would be huge”, he said and got ready to go to his room for his morning shower before breakfast. “Ok thatha. I will visit her today at 5.00 pm”, I replied. “That’s great!”, he replied.

It is now eighteen months since thatha left us. I sit on his armchair in the veranda, with my cup of coffee – a pile of newspaper stacked beside me, and of course, my mobile phone ready to clear any doubts I may have. I now ask myself questions – and wait for life to answer them. I cherishing his teachings – which remain etched in my heart like inscriptions on the temple walls. My source of comfort and learning is no longer outside of me, my thatha resides within me, in my heart – something for which I am truly grateful!

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About the Author:

Sutharsha Rajaprakash, a B.com graduate, is currently undergoing her articleship at an eminent audit firm in Coimbatore. Born in a typical Indian family, she dreams of creating her own identity and legacy. Her happiness lies in penning down the thoughts which overflow from her overthinking mind. She loves to post quotes, poems, and review books through her Instagram handle (sutharsha_rajaprakash). Mythology, self-help books, along with biographies and autobiographies, are the genre that interest her. She is a great movie freak and an avid music lover. Her passion for singing allows her to find solace amidst the hustle and bustle of life. An aspiring public speaker, she has won many elocutions and extempore competitions. She loves both the extremes – interacting with people and the state of solitude. She has an insatiable craving towards travelling, tasting different cuisines, and exploring different cultures. Her immense belief in the universe aids her in manifesting a life just the way, she wishes it to be.

She can be reached at sutharsharajaprakash@gmail.com

The comfort of our childhood often shields us from the realities of adulthood. From meals appearing magically on the table, to the house being tidied up without lifting a finger, the cocoon of familial care envelops us in a world where responsibilities are but distant concepts. Grocery shopping? What’s that? The refrigerator and pantry seem to manage quite effortlessly, always stocked with one’s favourite treats as if by enchantment.

Our mother’s nurturing care shapes our culinary preferences, very often prioritizing our taste and liking over that of others (read adults) in the family. If a meal isn’t to our taste, she whips up something in a jiffy, ensuring we don’t go to bed hungry (and upset).

However, as years pass and we tread the path of growing up, a desire for independence simmers within. The idea of forging our own path, free from parental guidance, becomes irresistible. We long to explore life beyond the boundaries of our home, where privacy is highly regarded. Thus, when the opportunity to move out presents itself, we grasp it eagerly, excited to taste the sweet fruit of independence. It’s a rite of passage, a declaration to the world that we are ready to carve our own path, make our own decisions, and shoulder responsibilities that come with adulthood.

The transition from the familiar comforts of home, to the streets of a new city marks a significant journey for many. The excitement of a fresh start often intertwines with the challenges of bidding farewell to the familiar. Leaving home stirs a mix of emotions, blending the bittersweet taste of independence with the ache of missing family and friends. Such experiences quickly illuminate the various challenges that accompany independent living, fostering growth and self-discovery along the way.

Amidst the newfound freedom of living alone, homesickness can hit unexpectedly. In those moments, waves of longing for the warmth of family gatherings and the laughter of cherished friends wash over, leaving a lingering sense of loneliness. There’s a sadness in missing out on birthdays and anniversaries of friends and loved ones, wanting to be there in person, but having to settle for a video call instead. While technology allows virtual connections and distant conversations, there’s a unique comfort in physical presence that cannot be replicated. Despite the distance, the anticipation of the next visit home becomes a beacon of hope, a reminder that while the ache of missing loved ones may linger, there’s solace in knowing that reunions and shared moments of joy await on the horizon.

Weekdays at work breeze by, but some weekends bring a tinge of loneliness. In the solitude, one cannot help but reflect on how some friendships, like true anchors, stay strong despite the distance; while some are contingent on proximity and thrive only when tended to every day – else, they wither and fade into the background, leaving you to wonder whether the “friendship” ever meant anything beyond routine interactions. Like an unknown author said, people come into your life either for a reason, or a season, or a lifetime. Living away teaches the dynamics of many relationships. Through this experience, one learns to appreciate the enduring presence of true friends who stick around regardless, while cherishing the memories of those who gracefully fade into the past.

From learning to budget, to mastering the art of grocery shopping, the initial months are sure to be a rollercoaster of growth. Who had imagined adulting would involve so many spreadsheets? House hunting? A task and a half! It’s a delicate dance between compromise and wishful thinking. From the cozy apartments, to the studios, the options seem endless. Yet, finding the one that checks all (at least most of all!) the boxes is like searching for a needle in a haystack.

Amidst the challenges, the daily routine of independent living becomes lessons in responsibility. Mastering the art of making the bed and doing laundry brings a sense of self-sufficiency. These mundane tasks, once ‘outsourced’, symbolize tangible growth in the newfound independence.

Amidst the homesickness and language barrier, there’s a glimmer of hope – the opportunity to embrace the unknown, to learn and grow in ways never imagined. With each stumbling conversation and missed bus stop, there’s a lesson in resilience and adaptability. And slowly, as the days turn into weeks and the weeks into months, the unfamiliarity of the city starts to dissolve some more. This is sure to be a transformative journey, with an undeniable thrill of exploring new places and embracing the unfamiliar. Each corner turned, every street walked, and every new face encountered is a chapter in the exciting novel of personal growth.

And then there’s the realization that it’s absolutely okay to do things alone. Eating in a restaurant, watching a movie – solo adventures do have their own charm. Here’s to the highs and lows, missing home-cooked meals, and discovering beauty in the uncomfortable.

Embracing the change unfolds as a gradual process, highlighting the fact that it is indeed the only constant. Through this journey, a previously unrecognized resilience is discovered. To all navigating a new chapter away from home – here’s a shoutout – go on, chase those dreams, embrace those uncertainties, create your own path, persevere and celebrate every victory – big or small.

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About Kush:

Kush is a new member of the Association of Chartered Certified Accountants (ACCA), bringing with him a background in internal audit. Currently, he contributes to the GRCS team at a Big4 firm. Beyond the confines of his professional pursuits, Kush is passionate about baking and cooking. He is also an avid traveller.

Having recently embarked on a journey of relocation to a new city, this is the first piece of writing he has tried wherein he candidly shares insights on what he’s learned from living on his own, facing both tough times and successes.

He can be reached on kushinduja@hotmail.com

In the sacred chambers of every soul, an epic battle echoes – a relentless clash between the noble might of Ram and the intricate complexities of Ravana, declaring in unison, “We’ve all got a Ram and a Ravana inside us; the choice, the thunderous roar of destiny lies in which force we empower.”

When discussions twirl around the eternal battle of light versus dark, my mind invariably turns to the legendary tale of Ram and Ravana in the Ramayana. The dance of dualities finds its rhythm in this narrative, illustrating not only the age-old battle of good versus evil but also serving as an exploration into human nature and psychology. Within each of us, there exists the potential to sway towards the light or the dark – to empower the virtuous Ram or the mischievous Ravana within. Our true strength lies in our willingness to consciously choose to be better.

Amidst the trending personality quizzes, let us give a nod to Carl Jung, for attempting to map the human psyche as broadly as possible. He wisely put it:

“To be quite accurate, human nature is simply what it is; it has its dark and its light sides. The sum of all colours is grey – light on a dark background or dark on light.”

Born in the sunny island of Sri Lanka to a sage, Ravana was not just a mischievous demon king. No, indeed! He wore the crown of a king, the laurels of a scholarly genius, the mantle of an extraordinary ruler, and even the hat of a veena maestro. Talk about having a multi-talented villain in the neighbourhood! But alas, despite his intellectual prowess and multitasking finesse, he struggled to implement his vast knowledge. It is akin to possessing a palette of vibrant neon colours, but choosing only shades of grey to paint your canvas.

In the grand scheme of things, Ravana emerges as a character painted in hues of grey, much like the rest of us. But here is the kicker – his evil deeds spoke a lot louder than his knowledge, etching his name in history as a symbol of darkness. Exactly what Albus Dumbledore meant when he said, “It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities”.

In our internal tug-of-war, where virtues and vices engage in a waltz of profound complexity, let us delve into transformative self-help insights, guiding the human psyche through the entwined narratives of Ram and Ravana as they share the stage, throwing not only punches but also thought-provoking punchlines.

Embrace your inner Ram and Ravana: Begin the journey of self-discovery by embracing the profound co-existence of light and dark within. Self-help embarks on a transformative path, encouraging us to embrace the entirety of our being, recognising the noble virtues akin to Ram and the complex intricacies reminiscent of Ravana. Your inner Ravana should no longer be shrouded in secrecy – the shadows within should no longer be branded as inherent evil. Instead, they are the facets of human experience that, when recognised and accepted, foster profound understanding, promoting personal growth and resilience. Time to witness the unexpected alliance of Ram and Ravana – shaking hands with each other – they are in a tag team like no other!

Conscious Choice – The VIP section of Destiny’s Nightclub: The legacy we leave is crafted through the choices we make. Enter the realm of wisdom as Dumbledore reemerges. No, he is not pulling any rabbits out of hats; he is pulling profound wisdom out of his sleeves. Your abilities are the show props, but the real magic lies in the choices you make, evoking thunderous applause from the audience! Ravana did possess the show props, but his magic show never met success!

Dive into the realm of conscious decision-making, where self-help prompts us to recognize that true strength lies in our ability to make choices that align with our higher virtues. Picture yourself in the VIP section of Destiny’s Nightclub, making conscious choices while sipping on wisdom cocktails. And the Club’s ideal bouncer? The Ram inside you – ensuring that only the virtuous get past the velvet rope. Because who wants the mischievous Ravana causing chaos in the VIP lounge of your life?

Ravana’s Internal Struggles- A Cautionary Tale in Self-Help: Reflect on Ravana’s narrative as a cautionary tale within the self-help paradigm. What cast him as the villain of the story? Were his traits influenced by the stains left on his soul through trials like Vedavathi’s curse, weaving a web of guilt and remorse? Perhaps it was the strained relationship with his brother Vibhishana, marked by betrayal and dissent, or the loss of Mandodari’s unwavering support and understanding. Did Ravana require a PhD in internal chaos management, and could therapy have been the solution? Does not that leave us pondering whether such interventions could have genuinely altered the trajectory of Ravana’s character?

Now, asking for help might sound scarier than a horror movie marathon, but hey, even Ravana could have used a little therapy. Admitting you need help may demand an extraordinary amount of courage and strength, but the transformative power it holds can reshape your life for the better. Embrace the opportunity to rewrite your story or to give it a better ending, because why not – your life could probably use a few plot twists along the way!

Mindful Living – The VIP Backstage Pass: Mindful living is not just a backstage pass; it is the VIP backstage pass to the concert of your life! Integrate the lessons learned from Ram and Ravana’s dance into daily life. Mindful living, a cornerstone of self-help, involves being present in every decision, acknowledging the dance of dualities within, and aligning actions with the values that lead to personal fulfilment and growth. In your grand journey, find solace in the awareness that every thread, every choice weaves a narrative uniquely yours – an epic worthy of celestial archives!

In the wise words of Sirius Black, “We’ve all got both light and dark inside us. What matters is the part we choose to act on. That’s who we really are.” So, choose your dance moves wisely, because my friend, you are not just the dancer; you are the choreographer of your destiny!

May your journey be filled with your choice of punchlines, plot twists that align with your virtues and a standing ovation for the lead dancer – you!

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About the author:

Srinidhi Vinod, a B. Com graduate is currently on her quest to conquer the realm of Chartered Accountancy, undergoing articleship at a leading audit firm in Coimbatore. Beyond the rigours of number crunching, she harbours a deep passion for art, finding pure joy in creative pursuits. Diving into the magical world of literature, she finds refuge in the spellbinding tales of Harry Potter. She also delights in embarking on culinary adventures, earning her the title of a foodie. Her love for reading and travel serve as the wind beneath her curious wings to unravel the world around her.

She can be reached on srinidhiv19@gmail.com

Most use ‘worthiness’ as a fancy concept, but few dig deep to understand what’s hidden beneath something so powerful. As evident, unworthiness is a malady which afflicts all mankind. As an age-old epidemic, it creeps into the system, feeding on the ego since forever.

In these modern times, every person suffers from the perils of competition and comparison, which makes one feel unworthy of fully expressing their uniqueness. Consequently, we all become perpetual doers trying to prove our worth by stressing/ stretching to gather accolades and appreciations from significant others.

It’s obvious that only the ego wins in such a battle against oneself. Sadly, our value is measured by what we do rather than Who We Are. Intrinsically, this is how our society conditions us, preparing us for failure and disappointments. Strangely, in the name of hard work, we begin attracting hardships, primarily because we believe that we are unworthy of success if we haven’t struggled enough.

Not surprising, the statistics for unworthiness felt by women far exceeds that felt by men, as a woman’s threshold for endurance is way higher than her counterpart’s. Women are ranked somewhere at the lower bottom on the scale of worthiness. Interestingly, women are themselves responsible for getting to this stage, because undoubtedly, they are good at doubting their whole purpose and existence. So, what really is unworthiness and why is it particularly of concern for women! Let’s explore the broad spectrum of how it has damaged the core essence of the female fraternity.

As children, we are all born worthy, experiencing the Self as pure consciousness. However, education and conditioning create the idea of separation from Source. Soon, we start investing our powers in others and adhering to their commands, believing that everybody else knows what is best for us, other than our own selves. For a woman, this manipulation begins rather early because she is made to believe that she is inferior to a man.

The interesting thing to note here is that a woman always knows that she is being trampled upon, misjudged and also misled, but the courage to stand up for who she is always takes a back seat. The question here is, when will a woman show up to honour her wellbeing and embrace her femininity?

The truth is that women are positioned at the leading edge of the universe, representing Mother Earth, the Shakti, which is the seat of manifestation. Wouldn’t it be great if women begin seeing themselves for who they are, and claim what’s theirs to celebrate and cherish? It’s crucial that the Kundalini is awakened so this power operates at its highest potential and guides humankind towards their evolution.

The time is now and the job is ours to do. Many will crumble under the fear of opening up to Source because our treasure has long been hidden from us, hence women are known to belittle themselves, not knowing that it’s a disgrace to not celebrate the feminine energy. As the woman breathes life into matter, it’s her privilege to rise before the sun and embrace her own light.

Dear Woman, are you ready for such a destiny that calls for you to prioritise your purpose over your personal agendas? For only those women will be deemed Heros in the truest sense, and who are ready to be christened as Goddesses.

Claiming one’s worthiness is not a battle to be fought where others stand across the fence. It’s not a war outside, but it certainly is a war within. If women are done shadowing others, then they must know that they would have to create breakthroughs in the way they perceive the world.

Most women are busy victimising themselves and in doing so, they play small, satisfied as being the ones who sacrifice. Morality overpowers authenticity every single time. It’s important to recognise that when a woman seeks attention by playing ‘poor me’, she compromises on her dignity by choosing a poor substitute instead of declaring that She exists.

As women, we need to let the world know that we have the power to alter destinies. Many fight for women empowerment, but only those who believe that they are not empowered join the clan. Here is where we need to change gears.

Are we ready to believe that we are equal?

A woman doesn’t have to fight for her worthiness, she IS worthy. She only has to Believe that She Is. This will require not just courage but also commitment to rise above the conditioning of treating the self as secondary. And to do that, we’d need to fight the demons of our own minds. Indeed, it is the mind that needs an overhaul! Our minds are our creative tools and once we alter the hardened neurological pathways, the universe will oblige the Devi within. Nothing comes in our way as much as we do. This is the seeming challenge to conquer.

There are umpteen ways that can be exemplified as a ‘To Do List’ for a woman to follow, so she feels worthy. But that’s not the focus here. Nor are we suggesting any pills on worthiness. This article is a wake-up call to all the beautiful women who need to awaken to their own inner power and inner beauty, so as to recognise that they are the Source of their own joy, love and peace. That they need nothing to complete themselves for they are whole and complete already.

This is a reminder to every Parvati, that her Shiva is within her and she can feel safe and secure in her own Being. This is for You and Me to know and believe that we are magnificent and our hearts are abodes of divine love. And when it comes to worthiness, it’s now totally up to us to honour it. We can’t wait any longer for somebody to announce it to us.

Claiming our worthiness is about creating a vibrational shift in the way we feel about ourselves. And if we have to bring that shift today, then we will have to claim the Divine feminine and appreciate that we are made in the image and likeness of Maa Durga, Lakshmi and Saraswati. If this isn’t enough for us to awaken to our true identity, then what is?

WAKE UP WOMAN, FOR YOU ARE WORTHY! YOU ARE SOURCE AND A PRECIOUS PRICELESS GEM! AHAM BRAHAMASAMI…..SOURCE I AM!

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About : Naz Chougley

Naz is an Aspirations Coach, an Emotional Therapist and a Meditation Teacher with over 20 years of experience. Her expertise involves providing perspectives beyond the confines of the logical mind, to support working professionals as well as individuals across all age groups. As a Law of Attraction Teacher, she helps people question their limiting beliefs, aspire higher and set intentions for personal evolution. She instils the values of gratitude, surrenderance, humility, acceptance, appreciation and present moment awareness. Her purpose is to enhance the wellbeing of people and enable them to recognise their worthiness, so they can attract their personal abundance.

Naz can be reached on nazclg@gmail.com