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Sameer usually scored average marks in his high school. In a couple of instances, he even failed a few subjects. While growing up, he struggled academically, and this lowered his self confidence too. Due to the fear of being mocked, he started skipping his classes.

The school used to conduct an aptitude test for entrance exams to various universities, upon graduating from school. This was one of the toughest tests to clear; Sameer promised his mother that we would take this aptitude test.

Though Sameer studied hard for it, he did not expect a good score for himself. When the results were out, he was pleasantly surprised – he had scored a whopping 1450 out of 1600! His happiness knew no bounds. His mother, knowing her kid, asked him, “Did you cheat?” He convinced her that he had solved the test honestly and had not cheated. Sameer eventually graduated from a reputed college and went on to become a successful entrepreneur.

This isn’t the story. What comes next is the important part.

20 years later (when he was a successful businessman), Sameer received a letter from his school.  The letter said that as part of periodic review, it had come to light that he was 1 of the 13 students from his batch who had been sent incorrect scores – his actual score was 740, a very low score.

Until then, Sameer had assumed that his life had changed because he had scored really high on the test. He realized that his life had changed not because of the ‘fantastic score’, but because his attitude and behavior had changed after ‘scoring superbly’ – the right attitude and behavior are keys to success.

“Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude.”

Two things to learn from this anecdote??

Self-Belief:

The driver behind Sameer’s success in life was the ‘whopping score’ he got. Opportunity knocked on his door – he grabbed it – his newfound courage helped him get a seat into a prestigious university where he performed well – all this contributed to Sameer’s initial success.

The entire incident led to self-belief emerging from within, which later motivated him to start his own and become a successful entrepreneur. This success was possible because Sameer started believing in himself, broadened his horizons and remained committed towards his goal. His strong sense of belief acted as a shield against all criticism and rejection that Sameer had faced as a failure during his schooldays.  The change in his behavior and belief helped develop his self-confidence, enabling him to face varied experiences with resilience.

The unwavering belief in one’s abilities forms the foundation upon which we build our futures. As we delve into the realms of self-discovery, it becomes clear that self-belief and self-confidence are critical in bringing about a transformative change, not only in our own lives, but in those around us too. This self-belief serves as inner strength when confronted with condemnation and rejection. It acts as armor through the challenges of life.

 Keep Moving:

We all use Google Maps, don’t we? If and when we miss a turn, Google Maps doesn’t say, “Hey, you took/ are taking a wrong turn”. It simply re-routes and guides you to the next best option to reach your destination.

The lesson we can take from this is that we need to understand that we are not off track, we just need to keep on moving and re-work our strategy. We may take a bit longer to reach our destination, or we may not reach the intended destination, but instead find a new pathway to a better one. The most important thing here is to keep moving.

In the above anecdote, his actual failure in his aptitude test did not stop Sameer from moving ahead with newfound confidence, which later became the driver for his professional success.

“Life has no limitations, except the ones you make.”

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 About Sneha:

Sneha is a Chartered Accountant by profession and is a strong believer of optimism in most of the life situations. Apart from being passionate in playing various outdoor games, she likes travelling viz; leisure, business, culture, religious, ecotourism etc.

Sneha can be reached at snehapatel3984@gmail.com

One afternoon in my Mumbai office, just after lunch, my manager called me on the intercom to his cabin. I was surprised to find our DGM there. He informed me that Tata Consulting Engineers (TCE) needed my expertise as a Cable Engineer for a client in Iran and directed me to TCE’s Project Division for details. I was then an employee of Tata Hydroelectric Power Supply Company, now Tata Power.

The next day, I was briefed on the project and deputation terms for TAVANIR, Iran’s Power Authority. While it was beneficial to my career, I had to discuss it with my wife, as it meant a two-year stay without family, with paid leave every six months. With two young children, the eldest (my son) just above ten and a daughter still a toddler, we deliberated before I agreed. However, the project details and living conditions remained unclear until I arrived in Tehran!

TAVANIR, the Power Authority of Iranian Ministry, engaged the consultancy services of TATA’s to oversee the installation and commissioning of their 66kV Power Distribution network. That’s how, in 1977, I became a part of a team of three engineers deputed as consultants, to oversee the installation and commissioning of a large 66kV underground cable network. The other two team members were assigned to manage civil work and sub-station erection.

That’s how we, the three musketeers, landed up in Chabahar, Iran!

The representative of TAVANIR briefed me that the project site was an upcoming defense base and explained the expanse of the project, scope of work and living facilities at site, etc.  He also gently warned me that being a defense base, it would be under the surveillance of Iran’s Secret police…the SAVAK!

Under the rule of Mohamed Reza Shah Pahlavi, also known as Shah of Iran – plans were afoot since mid-1976 to set up a vital defense base comprising the Navy, Air Force and Army of the US at Chabahar, a strategically located port close to the Strait of Hormuz. Why vital? Because you could scuttle a few junk ships in the narrowest part of this strait and ensure that no oil tankers could find their way in and out of the Gulf…take a look at the map! (Map 1) A virtual stranglehold on the region’s transport route.

The project was actually in a place called Konarak (loosely termed as Chabahar) which was a sparsely populated desert, sprinkled with an occasional oasis or a hamlet of the local Baluchi inhabitants. It would be interesting to know that Baluchistan, which is spread across the Iranian and West Pakistan territories, had a very porous border. Our base camp was located at Konarak, about 70 km by road from Chabahar Town. (refer Map 2).

There were only two seasons: 1) Summer, peaking at 53^oC and 2) Not so hot summer, peaking at 42^oC! We stayed in camping cabins that were thankfully air-conditioned! Breakfast, lunch and dinner (no free meals!) were served at the Iranian camp diner. The menu primarily consisted of chicken, eggs, beef, mutton, naan, and occasional rice recipes. The three of us being vegetarians, the only vegetables we could find were lemon and onions in salads! Life in the desert was tough, and family status was denied.

The Project Head from the Iranian Ministry for Power (TAVANIR) learnt of our plight and provided facilities like a gas range, fridge, utensils etc. We sourced a portable cabin (like a camper), scrounged around for a wash basin, etc. from the Iranian camp next door. Since I am a do-it-yourself (DIY) kind of a guy, I set up the kitchen – complete with power source, lighting, water inlets, wash basin, drainage, cook top, etc.

These were the late 70’s and Chabahar at that time was the only outpost closest to us for survival. It provided us:

♦ Telephonic connectivity to Tehran, the capital of Iran, and overseas to India

♦ The facility to send and receive surface mail

♦ Petrol and diesel for our vehicles

♦ Medical aid facility at the Red Crescent Hospital

♦ Our day-to-day essentials and consumables

While we were camped practically on the seashore, the work sites of the Army, Navy, and Air Force defense bases were spread over a large area, and we would easily cover anywhere between 70-80 km a day, driving between the sites to oversee and monitor the progress at each site. Barring the electric substation, the naval base was exclusively under the control of the US Navy for security and other reasons.

Given the intense heat, the working hours were, mercifully, from 7 am to 12 noon and from 2 pm to 5 pm. And oh yes, officially it was a 5-day work week, with Thursday and Fridays as our weekly off. It really didn’t matter as we didn’t live with our families and so we didn’t have anywhere to go and spend time on the weekends.

The 5-day week was a joke, at least for us Asians. The Swedish, British, French, and Italians would hold barbecue parties with fresh livestock slaughtered on site. We were rarely invited and even on that odd day, we wouldn’t relish it as most of us were vegetarians and teetotalers.

We had a lot to do ourselves over the weekends. We had to stock diesel and replenish our food supplies for at least a fortnight and speak to our families back in India. We had to use the Land Rover, driven by me, to travel 70 km each way, to Chabahar town and back.

Communication over the phone, especially outside the country, was a challenge in itself. Since there were only landlines those days, we had to book an international call (in India we called it Standard Trunk Dialing – STD). We would wait for hours to get our turn and since the call was timed, we would receive reminders of the minutes remaining and that would momentarily disrupt our train of thought of what we wanted to convey in those precious minutes. On an unlucky day, the call would disconnect due to technical issues. And to top it all, we had to be wary of what we said, as we had a feeling that the lines were tapped!!!

Logistics in terms of our movement in and out of Konarak to other cities was only by air using chartered flights that operated once a week to Shiraz. This arrangement was free and exclusively meant for project personnel. From Shiraz, we had to use regular commercial airlines to move to other cities in Iran, including Tehran.

The flights from Tehran would bring much-awaited mail from our families – written by them weeks before and received by TAVANIR’s office in Tehran. These flights also carried much-needed condiments and essential ingredients required for our kitchen, sent by our counterparts in Tehran.

Konarak had a dubious record. While we could get items like processed food, white goods, alcohol, and even SUVs smuggled from the UAE across the Gulf of Oman (refer Map 1) in dhows, we could not access fresh fruits and vegetables or even a carton of processed milk (we had to make do with milk powder).

In early 1978, around Navroz, we heard whispers about an ongoing revolution to overthrow the monarchy. History unfolded as the royals were deposed, and a strict religious regime took control. Though it was an internal matter, it created immense insecurity among all the expats. As soon as the revolution took momentum in mid-1978, The Revolutionary Guards, loyal to the incoming rulers, operated with unchecked authority, targeting foreigners, especially Americans, as the Chabahar defense base was being built by the US. The British, Italian, and French nationals were also at risk and had fled by late 1978. Only we three Indians, a few Sri Lankans, Bangladeshis, and some local Baluchi employees remained on-site.

Push came to shove in a way that was both unpleasant and serendipitous! We were in the habit of sitting outside the camper to have dinner every night, next to the parked Land Rover. On one such night, a shot rang out and the next thing we heard was a bullet whiz past me and hit the parked Land Rover! Deciding enough was enough; we packed up and decided to leave for Tehran via Shiraz by the chartered flight that came in once a week from Shiraz.

The flight, meant for base personnel, was free, but a Revolutionary Guard, wielding an M16, barred us as “Khariji” (foreigners). With no choice, we abandoned the site and most belongings, taking a bus to Tehran, nearly 2,000 km — facing multiple checkpoints and harassment. By the time we arrived, winter had set in, but we were still dressed for Chabahar’s summer!

Our troubles continued as the government machinery came to a standstill, disrupting money transfers. A daily limit was imposed on fund repatriation, forcing us to queue outside the bank from 7 am in the freezing winter, waiting for our turn to remit money.

In January 1979, Shah Reza Pahlavi fled, allowing Ayatollah Khomeini’s return on February 1. Expats were advised to stay indoors, and we watched from terraces as jubilant crowds and Revolutionary Guards welcomed him with great fanfare.

Obtaining our exit visa was a challenge, as ministry employees had deserted their offices due to the revolution. After settling our dues, our parent company paid us in Iranian Rials, nearly worthless in India. We managed to exchange them for US dollars at an exorbitant rate.

Finally, I got my exit visa and left for the airport! The gun-toting trigger-happy Revolutionary Guards were there too. My check-in and cabin baggage were thoroughly checked (I had no idea what it was they thought I would be carrying from a country that had been impoverished overnight)! The Guards found a couple of audio cassette tapes of Iranian songs sung by a famous singer (of the Shah regime), Googoosh. She too had fled Iran. The tapes were crushed and destroyed by them with the butts of their automatic weapons.

Only on planting my feet on Indian terra firma, did I realize that with nothing better to do, I had grown a beard in Baluchi style. When my family came to receive me at the airport, my five-year-old daughter let out a shriek on seeing me!

Though there are instances I would rather forget, like the bullet whizzing past me, I am able to recollect the minute details at this age since they are firmly etched in my memory for posterity!

At the Chabahar site.. the author with his trustworthy pal, his (ramshackle) Land Rover (with no AC) who bore the brunt of the harsh climate and harsh terrain.

The temperatures would rise to 52^oC, so high that you could actually cook a sunny side up on its bonnet!

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About: Balakumar V.

As he approaches his 85th birthday, he finds joy in reflecting on his journey. The youngest of four siblings, his childhood unfolded in Kolkata, Delhi, and Mumbai (in that order). By his own admission, he wasn’t an exceptional student, but neither was he dull—with a mind always brimming with curiosity. At the tender age of eleven, he had dismantled a German KIENZLE alarm clock, only to fail at reassembling it—earning a memorable thrashing from his father!

Recognizing his inquisitive nature, his father gifted him a Fretwork toolkit on his 12th birthday, setting him on a creative path. He soon ventured into aeromodelling and electronics, eventually pursuing engineering, a career his father had envisioned for him. He stepped into the engineering college just as his father retired, studying on his modest pension.

His career spanned thirty years at Tata Electric, followed by a stint in Bahrain’s R&D section of the Distribution Directorate of the Ministry of Electricity and Water until 2002, when he finally hung up his boots. Even in retirement, his DIY passion thrives—at 85, he built a tool chest on wheels using electric and hand tools! Creativity keeps life exciting—is his lifelong Mantra!

Mr. Balakumar can be reached at chandrasekarbalakumar@gmail.com

In today’s world, the buzzwords of burnout, silent resignations, and work-life imbalance dominate conversations on social media platforms like LinkedIn. Stories abound of professionals grappling with the unrelenting demands of corporate life, struggling to find a semblance of harmony between their careers and personal lives. For many, these struggles seep into their relationships, impacting their marriages and their children’s emotional and academic well-being. A common refrain heard from relatives, “We haven’t seen you at weddings,” or “When was the last time we saw your child?” echoes the isolation brought about by a life devoted almost entirely to work.

The mounting pressures of tight schedules and looming deadlines leave little room for meaningful connections, hobbies, or even self-care. And as retirement approaches, a curious trend emerges – professionals resigning without a job in hand. This quiet phenomenon reflects a growing disillusionment with corporate hierarchies and the yearning for a more fulfilling life.

For some, this marks the beginning of a remarkable journey—a journey driven by intuition, passion, and the courage to redefine life on their own terms. I am one of those individuals.

The Courage to Let Go

Quitting a 33-year corporate career was not an impulsive decision. It was a culmination of years of witnessing how my health—both physical and mental—was deteriorating due to the demands of late hours, job insecurity, and the perpetual stress of workplace politics. I had no plans, no roadmap, and no fallback income when I decided to resign. The weight of this decision was compounded by the financial responsibilities my family faced: EMIs, children’s education, and future obligations.

The decision drew mixed reactions from my family, ranging from concern to outright disbelief. “How could you take such a drastic step?” was a common refrain. But as the breadwinner, I knew that continuing in such an environment would only exacerbate my health challenges, leaving me unable to support my family in the long run.

At the time, I relied on faith — faith in a higher power that I believe has a way of guiding us when we least expect it. Despite the initial uncertainty, I remained patient, believing that new opportunities would emerge.

Finding Purpose in Uncertainty

The first three months after quitting were perhaps the most challenging of my life. With no income and a head full of doubts, I struggled to find clarity. Yet, during this period, a freelance editing opportunity presented itself. It was unexpected and challenging, but it aligned with my love for writing. After passing a rigorous selection test, I began earning a modest income.

It was during this time of rediscovery that a volunteering opportunity with the Angel Xpress Foundation (AXF) appeared. What began as an experiment evolved into a deep commitment to teaching and mentoring underprivileged students. This was a day job. However, after coming home, I set up a side hustle that actually earned an income. It was home-tutoring. I started with one student, tutoring in the evenings. Through word-of-mouth, I began receiving inquiries from parents seeking private tutoring for their children and by the middle of the academic year, my reach had grown to three. The satisfaction of helping others while doing something I loved was unparalleled.

What had started as a volunteer endeavor with AXF, turned into a sustainable avenue for both impact and income. Additionally, my involvement with AXF expanded as I took on report-writing responsibilities for the centre, which brought in additional compensation. Every step of this journey felt divinely orchestrated, reaffirming my belief in a higher power.

Home Tutoring: An Unexpected Journey into Counseling

While the primary focus of home tutoring was academic improvement, it soon revealed deeper issues within the education system. Many schoolchildren struggled due to the lackadaisical approach of some school teachers and management, leaving gaps in their learning and affecting their confidence. As a tutor, I often found myself stepping into a dual role—not just teaching, but also counseling mothers grappling with the challenges of parenting children on the cusp of adolescence.

This was particularly evident in my interactions with mothers of girls. The teenage phase brought its own set of hurdles, from shifting behaviors to puberty-related concerns. Bridging the generational gap between millennials and Gen Z added another layer of complexity. As a male tutor, I became an unexpected confidant of these mothers, who shared their worries and sought advice on navigating this delicate phase.

Though unprepared for this dimension of tutoring, I realized that education is more than academics — it’s about building trust, offering support, and helping families navigate the challenges of growing up. This experience broadened my perspective, making me more empathetic and attuned to the nuanced needs of both students and their families.

Lessons Learned Along the Way

This transition was not without its challenges. Overcoming guilt and societal judgment was as critical as finding financial stability. Family members initially questioned the wisdom of leaving a secure job, especially without a concrete plan. Their concerns were valid, yet I knew deep down that I needed to prioritize my well-being to truly support them.

Patience, resilience, and faith became my guiding principles. I realized that stepping away from the corporate grind not only improved my health but also gave me a newfound clarity of purpose. It enabled me to explore opportunities I never would have considered otherwise, from tutoring to report-writing to entrepreneurial ventures.
In retrospect, these changes have not only enriched my life but also deepened my faith in karma. A decade ago, one of my employers had said, “Do good, and good will happen to you.” This mantra has stayed with me, reminding me of the cyclical nature of kindness and effort.

A Personal Reflection

Looking back, my journey from corporate life to one filled with purpose and passion feels almost surreal. The decision to leave a secure but demanding job was daunting, yet it’s been the most liberating choice I’ve ever made. From tutoring underprivileged children at AXF to balancing my evening classes as a private tutor, I’ve discovered a deeper sense of fulfillment. Each interaction with my students reinforces the idea that education is not just about imparting knowledge — it’s about creating possibilities.

The support I received, whether from a divine source or through serendipitous opportunities, has been a humbling reminder that life often unfolds in ways we cannot predict. Today, I juggle my roles as a volunteer, tutor, and budding entrepreneur with pride and gratitude. The journey has been transformative, proving that faith, patience, and perseverance can truly reshape one’s life.

The Takeaway

For those contemplating a similar leap, my message is simple: trust the process. The initial uncertainty can be overwhelming, but the rewards — better health, peace of mind, and a renewed sense of purpose — are worth every risk. It’s essential to tune out societal expectations and focus on what truly aligns with your passions and values.

Whether you choose to contribute to society, explore entrepreneurship, or simply take time to rediscover yourself, know that opportunities abound. The divine has a way of providing for those who take bold, purposeful steps.

In closing, I urge others facing similar crossroads to reflect deeply, embrace change courageously, and, above all, keep the faith. The journey might be uncertain, but it is in these moments of uncertainty that life’s most meaningful transformations occur.

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About Chandrasekar Balakumar

Chandrasekar Balakumar, born to an electrical engineer and a homemaker in Tiruchirapalli, Tamil Nadu, moved to Mumbai at just eight months old and has called the city home ever since. Raised in the Tata Power Colony amidst Anglo-Indian neighbors, he was encouraged to converse exclusively in English, a practice that honed his linguistic skills. His paternal grandfather, a literary scholar, translated the Tirukkural from Tamil to English, leaving a legacy that sparked Chandrasekar’s passion for writing and reading.

A construction engineer by profession, Chandrasekar worked across India and abroad, including a five-year stint in Tashkent, where he learned Russian and experienced the warmth of Uzbek hospitality. Over his career, he transitioned seamlessly from construction engineering to heading a manufacturing unit for high-end architectural products, ultimately retiring as Chief Engineer of the prestigious Bombay Gymkhana.

An artist at heart, he enjoys drawing, painting, exploring diverse music genres, and cooking hearty meals for his family.

Chandrasekar can be reached at chandrasekarbalakumar@gmail.com

Have you wondered a world without photography? Imagine a family gathering, a birthday celebration, or a wedding, where no one can capture a single moment in time. The laughter, the smiles, the fleeting glances. All of it existing only in memory. Instead of looking at a photograph to relive those moments, we would have to rely solely on our recollection, which does blur and distort with time. What would our stories look like without these visual markers, these physical mementos of who we were and who we loved?

Just think about how much we rely on images to anchor our identities. Our childhood snapshots, our travel photos, the pictures that mark milestones like graduations and weddings. Would we still find ways to memorize the beauty around us, or would we simply let it slip away, content with the temporary nature of everything? Photography does more than just document life, it allows us to hold on to pieces of it, long after the moment has passed.

Photography is not just about capturing images; it is about storytelling. A single photograph can tell a thousand stories, encapsulating emotions, experiences, and cultures in a way that resonates with viewers. This narrative power is particularly important in documentary photography, where photographers often highlight social issues, cultural events, and human experiences. For instance, photojournalists play a crucial role in documenting world events, providing visual evidence of history as it unfolds. Their work can raise awareness about pressing issues, influencing public opinion and driving social change. This responsibility makes photography not only a career but also a platform for advocacy and activism, allowing photographers to use their skills to make a meaningful impact in society.

In a world increasingly driven by technology and digital landscape, traditional career paths are evolving, and unconventional choices are gaining traction. Photography stands out as a particularly compelling option. While many view photography merely as a hobby or a side gig, it has blossomed into a legitimate career for countless individuals.

Unlike conventional careers that often adhere to strict protocols and routines, photography allows for creative expression and personal interpretation. Photographers can explore diverse genres, including portraiture, landscape, fashion, documentary, and commercial photography. Moreover, the rise of social media platforms has standardized photography. Individuals can share their work with a global audience, gaining recognition and cultivating a following. This visibility can lead to various income opportunities, from freelance gigs to sponsored posts. The accessibility of high-quality cameras and editing software has further enabled aspiring photographers to embark on their journeys with relative ease.

Traditional jobs typically offer stability, and mainly a predictable income. One of the most attractive aspects of a photography career is the flexibility it offers. Unlike traditional jobs that often confine individuals to an office or a specific location, photographers can work in a variety of settings, from bustling city streets to serene natural landscapes. Photography is often portrayed by freelance work, irregular hours, and variable income. The uncertainty can be daunting, but it also fosters resilience. Many photographers learn to hustle, seeking out clients and networking. While the prospect of a career in photography is enticing, it is essential to acknowledge the challenges that accompany it. The market is saturated with talent. Competition in the field is a massive challenge. With the proliferation of smartphones and accessible photography equipment, more people than ever are entering the market. This saturation can make it difficult for new photographers to stand out and establish a client base.

To stand out, photographers must continuously hone their skills, stay updated with industry trends, and adapt to new technologies. This demands a solid understanding of business practices, marketing, and client management. High-quality cameras are now available in smartphones, enabling anyone to take impressive photos. This democratization has led to an increase in visual content, creating a growing demand for skilled photographers who can produce exceptional imagery.

Financial instability is another common hurdle. Many photographers start their careers with little to no steady income. Building a sustainable business often takes time, requiring patience and perseverance. As a result, aspiring photographers must cultivate a strong financial acumen, learning to budget and manage expenses. Furthermore, the emotional toll of freelancing can be significant. The pressure to consistently produce exceptional work and secure clients can lead to burnout. Photographers must find a balance between creative fulfilment and the practicalities of running a business, which can be a delicate juggling act.

Beyond technical skills, photographers must also excel in communication and interpersonal skills. Building strong relationships with clients is essential for securing repeat business and referrals. Marketing and branding are critical components. Developing a strong online presence through a professional website is vital for attracting clients and showcasing work.

Photography is viewed from two completely different perspectives that vary by country. In Western countries, photography has historically been associated with individualism and personal expression. The genre often emphasizes subjective experiences and artistic vision.

In contrast, Indian photography has a rich heritage deeply intertwined with cultural narratives and community life. Traditional photography in India often centred around family portraits, wedding photography, and festivals, showcasing the vibrancy and diversity of Indian culture. Traditional practices, such as portraiture, often reflect community and family dynamics rather than individual expression.

The advent of digital technology has transformed photography globally, yet disparities in access remain evident. In Western countries, the proliferation of high-quality cameras and smartphones has democratized photography, allowing a wider audience to engage with the medium. Social media platforms like Instagram have further popularized photography, enabling individuals to showcase their work and gain recognition. In India, while technology is rapidly advancing, access can vary significantly between urban and rural areas. In cities, digital photography is flourishing, with many young photographers utilizing social media to share their art. However, in rural regions, traditional forms of photography, such as family portraits taken by local photographers, still dominate. The contrast in technological integration underscores a broader dialogue about globalization and local traditions in photography.

In India, speaking from experience, traditional gender roles can limit opportunities for women, often pressuring them to prioritize family responsibilities over career aspirations. Women photographers may encounter safety issues, especially when working in remote or less secure locations. Concerns about harassment or violence can deter them from pursuing certain assignments. Gender bias can lead to stereotypes that underestimate women’s capabilities in technical fields. This can affect how they are perceived by clients and peers.

Balancing a demanding career with societal expectations around family and domestic roles can be particularly challenging for women, leading to stress and burnout. To a certain extent, women do face discrimination or unequal pay in freelance work, which can hinder their professional growth and financial stability.

Photography stands as a testament to the power of unconventional career choices. As technology continues to evolve and the demand for visual content grows, photography remains a vibrant and exciting career option for those willing to take the leap into this captivating field. Ultimately, it is the passion for capturing the world through a lens that drives photographers forward, creating beauty and meaning in every shot.

From personal experience, my journey has been anything but conventional. Choosing to pursue a career in photography, fully aware of the financial inconsistencies it might bring, was a bold decision. While there are times when the financial rewards are significant, there are also periods of uncertainty. In the beginning, I didn’t receive the support I had hoped for from my family. Like many others, they expected me to follow the traditional path of a 9-to-5 job. However, I was never convinced that a desk job was right for me, as I’ve always been more inclined to seek dynamic, hands-on work. Over time, my family came to understand and accept my passion for photography.

I graduated with a bachelor’s degree in 2011, the same year I took my first international trip to Chicago, USA. That trip proved to be a pivotal moment in my life, sparking my passion for photography. What began as a hobby soon evolved into a realization that this could be a viable career path. After returning home, I pursued formal education in photography, and since then, I have never looked back. Throughout my journey, I’ve had the privilege of working with talented individuals who have provided invaluable guidance. My father, a filmmaker, has been my first mentor and a tremendous source of support. His advice has been instrumental in shaping my approach to both the art and business of photography. Today, I can confidently say that photography has been an incredibly fulfilling profession, and I am grateful every day for the decision to pursue this field.

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About : Kanika Nadkarni

Kanika Nadkarni is a proficient photographer with 13 years of diverse experience in the industry. She has focused on wedding photography for 6 years and currently works as a corporate and event photographer for a retail tech company. Kanika graduated in 2011 with a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Philosophy, followed by a diploma in photography. She gained experience by assisting a film editor for two years and worked on three Marathi feature films. She worked as a wedding photographer at a company called ‘WeddingZ.in’ for a duration of 4 years. Additionally, she has worked as an onset photographer for commercials and feature films. She has a vast experience shooting weddings, film shoots, events, products, and fashion. Kanika is also a guest lecturer at schools for special children in Mumbai, teaching photography.

Kanika can be reached on kanika18sept@gmail.com

In the kaleidoscope of Indian culture, the goddess holds profound significance, embodying the eternal feminine essence that encompasses every aspect of existence. She is the divine force – the Shakti, who bestows life and nurturing warmth upon the cosmos. The goddess personifies the eternal cycle of birth, growth, and transformation. In Indian mythology, she manifests in myriad forms – benevolent, compassionate, nurturing, fierce and destructive. Her multifaceted manifestations mirror the boundless spectrum of human experience as she stands in all her glory, orchestrating the symphony of existence.

Venerating the goddess is a homage to femininity, recognizing it as the cradle of life and the source of cosmic energy. This reverence of the eternal feminine transcends religious boundaries, weaving itself in the tapestry of societal life in the form of cultural practices, festivals, and rituals. Celebrating the goddess is an acknowledgment of the profound role played by women in society – embodying strength, resilience, and empathy that is intrinsic to the feminine spirit that creates and sustains life.

Today’s Indian woman, like the goddesses of lore, is multifaceted – she deftly balances numerous roles with aplomb and poise. Much like Saraswati, she wields the quill of knowledge and seeks intellectual pursuits. Durga’s fierce determination courses through her veins as she courageously faces challenges, embodying strength, and resilience in every stride. Like Lakshmi, she brings prosperity not only to her home but also contributes to the economic fabric of society. The modern Indian woman seamlessly blends tradition with contemporary dynamism. She navigates the complexities of modern-day existence, armed with the wisdom of the ages, with grace and compassion as well as strength and determination.

In the urban cityscape, as a working woman, she performs the delicate dance between career, wifeliness, and motherhood. Dressed in a tailored suit or a crisp saree, she ventures into the corporate arena, where glass ceilings, stereotypes and pre-conceived notions abound aplenty. She handles meetings, deadlines, teams, and clients. She knocks on the boardroom door, a predominantly male dominated realm, enters, and carves out her own space. Her struggle is not merely against a corporate hierarchy but against prejudices, objectification, as also questions about her capability, and her ability to handle her soaring professional and personal aspirations.

As the clock ticks through the day, her professional persona blends seamlessly with her role of a wife and mother. She juggles with PTA meetings, school drops and pickups, supervision of studies and narration of bedtime stories. The office gives way to the kitchen, where she whips up culinary delights, and the work-desk morphs into a dining table where she nurtures through food, and fosters strong familial bonds through interaction and shared laughter. The weekend arrives as a respite, yet her responsibilities remain unabated. From being a cheerleader to her kids at a cricket game or a dance recital, to stepping in to resolve a critical issue at work, or tending to domestic chores, she expertly tackles it all. Amidst all this, she also manages to snatch pieces of “me time” to recharge her own batteries, to face a new week of challenges and intricacies of her dual existence.

As a contemporary urban housewife, she assumes the role of a conductor, orchestrating the harmonious symphony of domestic life. In the fast-paced, cluttered urban life, she creates a home that is a sanctuary of tranquillity amidst chaos, a place where one belongs. She transforms mundane household tasks into acts of love, infuses each corner of her home with warmth and hospitality. Her tireless devotion to her family knows no bounds, as she unwaveringly dedicates her life to home-making and caring for her loved ones. Without batting an eyelid, she makes the difficult choice between ambition and compromise, embodying the timeless essence of love, nurturing, and sacrifice.

In the verdant rural landscape, she stands tall as a symbol of resilience and sustenance. She embodies the timeless spirit of the earth, her hands tilling the soil and nurturing life. Amidst the rustic simplicity of her surroundings, she is a proponent of tradition, and ancestral wisdom, yet also progressive, embracing bits and pieces of modernity, with enthusiasm. She toils under the scorching sun, her labour often unrecognized and undervalued. She has limited access to resources, to modern technology, and opportunities for economic empowerment. At times, even necessities like food, clothing and shelter are hard to come by. And yet, her tenacity shines through, as she sustains the rural heartbeat by encouraging her children to acquire education, to broaden their horizons. She motivates her spouse and community to adopt modern technology in day-to-day life, infusing a difficult existence with hope, vitality, and the promise of a brighter tomorrow.

She is the woman of today.

In the sphere of industry and entrepreneurship, she is a visionary trailblazer. In the realms of art and culture, she is a creator as well as a muse. In the ever-expanding frontiers of science and technology, she leads as a pioneer and an innovator. She champions change, advocating for gender equality, social justice, and women’s rights. She fearlessly confronts injustice and discrimination, as she strives to create a more inclusive and equitable society for future generations. In the quiet moments of everyday life, she supports and nurtures, whether tending to the needs of loved ones, lending a helping hand to a stranger in need, or simply leading by example with quiet dignity and grace.
As time marches on, seasons change, so does the landscape of her journey. Her personal and professional paths witness both triumphs and setbacks. Yet, her spirit remains an unwavering force, that persists and transcends beyond the confines of her immediate world. Her song is one, sung through the ages, an anthem for those who dare to dream, against all odds. Her life is a testament to her indomitable spirit as she deftly embraces progress while retaining tradition, symbolizing the beauty and essence of womanhood in its purest form.

As she pauses to bask in her accomplishments, ones which she has earned, has fought for, with blood sweat and tears, she stands tall, her heart a brimming reservoir of pride, joy, and satisfaction at how far she has come. In her eyes burn twin flames, unwavering and bright, that illuminate the path ahead, of new frontiers to be conquered, new challenges to be overcome, a whole new world to be created. And as she surveys her surroundings, taking in the thunderous applause from all quarters, for the path she has traversed, deep in her soul she knows with utmost certainty, that a glorious future awaits her, that she is far from finished, that she has miles to go before she sleeps.

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About : Rashmi Madhu Kumar

Rashmi Madhu Kumar is a Learning and Development Consultant who works with organizations to enhance performance through understanding and modifying individual and group behaviors. She designs and facilitates targeted interventions to improve skills, increase engagement, and foster effective communication. Her work involves assessing needs, creating customized training programs, and measuring the impact of behavioral changes on overall success.

Outside of work, her role as a mom to a vibrant teenager has taught her invaluable lessons in patience, communication, and the power of positive reinforcement, skills that seamlessly integrate into her consulting work. In her free time one can often find her lost in a good book. Reading has been a lifelong passion, offering both solace and inspiration in equal measure. She also dabbles in painting and sewing, finding moments of comfort, creativity and expression through these artistic pursuits. Alongside these interests, she and her husband, are passionate cooks, exploring and experimenting with diverse cuisines.

Rashmi can be contacted on rashmi.madhukumar@gmail.com

In bygone days, especially in culturally evolving countries like India, the notion of a woman venturing beyond her homeland typically entailed traditional roles—marriage, motherhood, or leisurely travels. Yet, as we traverse the modern landscape, a significant paradigm shift has emerged. Today, families throughout the land support women embarking on journeys beyond borders not merely to fulfil societal expectations, but to pursue their professional aspirations with a fervor unparalleled in history.

The resonating echoes of Bollywood’s iconic mantra – “Jaa Simran, jee le apni zindagi” (Go Simran, live your life) reverberate through the records of cultural transformation. No longer are Simrans restricted to the confines of domesticity with their Rajs, but are encouraged by their families to venture forth into the vast expanse of the world, to seize opportunities and shape their destiny in ways unimaginable to previous generations.

The only twist is that these Simrans now have the opportunities but may not necessarily have the required life skills. These translate into multiple chapters of self-discovery as follows:

Chapter 1 – Intentional Survival

In the realm of life’s essentials — roti, kapda aur makaan (food, clothing, and shelter) —women often find themselves navigating a terrain fraught with societal expectations and personal aspirations. Yet, amidst this journey, do these roles truly resonate with the essence of who we are? When we dare to question every facet of survival, from the simple choice between dining out or preparing a meal at home, to the deeper considerations of cultural identity in our wardrobe selections, we embark on a profound exploration of our inner selves.

For instance, would you eat out every day or start to perceive cooking, once relegated to the realm of chores, as a sacred act of alchemy — a mindful ritual wherein you infuse ingredients with intention and transform them into sustenance for both body and spirit? Each meal becomes an opportunity to nourish not only oneself but also one’s connection to the divine, as we honor the gifts of nature and the abundance of the earth.

Similarly, our choices in clothing take on a deeper significance. Would you like to blend in or do your wardrobe selections become expressions of your cultural heritage and individual identity?

And in the sanctuary of shelter, we discover a newfound appreciation for the comforts of home and the efforts of those who have provided for us. Whether we choose to share our living space with others or cultivate a sense of solitude, our homes become sacred spaces—refuges where we can nurture our bodies, minds, and spirits.

Shelter introduces its own set of complexities. Whether to share living quarters or reside independently, the decisions extend beyond mere accommodation to encompass choices regarding furnishings, utility bills, and the responsibilities of maintaining a household. In navigating these decisions, a newfound appreciation for the efforts of parents and homekeepers inevitably emerges, underscoring the importance of familial support and domestic stewardship.

Oh, and let’s not overlook the fact that this journey, though centered around life’s essentials, is distinct from the dreams and aspirations you’re truly passionate about. Perhaps, amidst these contemplations, you will unearth your identity —a revelation that transcends societal norms and guide you towards the fulfilment of your deepest desires and aspirations.

Chapter 2 – Embracing Work Culture

With the expanding expatriate community worldwide, a vibrant interchange of work practices and ideas becomes evident. Consider, for instance, the varying emphasis placed on work cultures across different countries. While some prioritize control and mastery in the workplace, others prioritize friendships at the workplace and the ability to catch-up in communal spaces.

Now, imagine a scenario where these diverse cultures converge, bridging gaps between countries with contrasting work norms. In such a scenario, individuals hailing from environments where long work hours are the norm may find themselves amidst a culture shift. Excellence is recognized and valued within the team, and the realization dawns that work is but one facet of life—a means to an end rather than an end in itself.

Chapter 3 – Health Is Indeed Wealth

As expats navigate the process of reinventing themselves in a new environment, they often face a rollercoaster of emotions. This journey manifests the theoretical concepts of emotional intelligence and self-awareness from HR trainings to reality. Amidst this whirlwind, the importance of maintaining both mental and physical well-being becomes crystal clear.

Can one truly afford to neglect one’s health and fitness while living alone in a foreign land? Is it sustainable to endure prolonged anxiety or depression in such circumstances? These questions, coupled with the sights of individuals running on streets at any hour of the day and vibrant full gym scenes, inevitably prompt reflection on one’s sedentary lifestyle and its potential consequences.

Chapter 4 – Re-Discovering Passions Beyond Work

Amidst the newfound freedom and abundance of time, one is faced with the task of defining one’s ultimate purpose beyond the confines of work. This canvas of possibilities invites introspection and prompts the question: How will you craft the narrative of your life?

Numerous inquiries arise, including:

♦  What significance does exploring your new surroundings hold for you? Where would you venture? Are you open to solo adventures?

♦  As a woman, are your career decisions driven by a desire for equality with men? Do you genuinely derive fulfillment from your chosen path?

♦  Have your hobbies remained unchanged, or have you discovered new interests to enrich your leisure time?

♦  Were your past routine choices a product of personal preference, or were they influenced by societal expectations left unquestioned?

Through contemplation of these questions, relocation serves as a catalyst for discovering one’s true identity. Over time, clarity emerges, illuminating the essence of who you are at your core.

Chapter 5 – Inevitable Zen Mode

Various spiritual traditions espouse the concept of “mindfulness”. In our familiar home environment, however, we often slip into an autopilot mode, operating unconsciously.

Relocating to a new country jolts us from this state of complacency, compelling us to engage fully in the present moment. In this unfamiliar setting, we are forced to be mindful, as the differences in culture and surroundings demand our attention. Living overseas offers an opportunity to experience each moment with heightened awareness, free from the burdens of past regrets or future worries, embracing what Zen philosophy terms as “Zen time”—the ever-present now.

Chapter 6 – The RCM of Life

RCM, or Risk Control Matrix, is a crucial tool in internal audit used to identify, assess, and mitigate risks within an organization’s processes. It serves as a structured framework for evaluating the effectiveness of internal controls and identifying areas of vulnerability to potential risks.

Following relocation, individuals are presented with a prime opportunity to reinvent their lives, akin to crafting a personal RCM. The journey of living independently outside one’s home country often prompts a transformation of identity, necessitating a comprehensive evaluation of various life aspects. Through introspection into career, health, relationships, and personal growth, individuals can gauge their satisfaction levels in each domain. By identifying areas of imbalance or potential risks, proactive steps can be taken to fortify internal controls and mitigate vulnerabilities.

Isn’t it remarkable that the families of so many Simrans have broken the generational chains and entrusted them to follow their own path? As times continue to evolve, marked by technological advancements and climate change, it will be interesting to observe how we can offer support and encouragement to the generations that follow.

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About Miral

Miral is a Chartered Accountant, working with the Business Advisory practice of a prominent Consultancy Firm. Beyond her corporate role, she is a practicing trained classical dancer and enjoys creating art during leisure hours. Driven by a quest for knowledge and spiritual growth, she is an avid reader and traveler having explored more than 10 countries.

With prior experience in Forensics and Investigation Services in India, Miral has transitioned her career into Advisory Services in the UAE in recent past. In the above article, she shares her firsthand insights and lessons learned from her relocation journey.

Miral can be reached at mmajamundar@gmail.com.

We leave digital footprints wherever we travel in the digital realm. Every word we write, every post we share, and every location we reveal leaves a trail in the vast expanse of the digital world. Whether we acknowledge it or not, every post, photograph, or opinion we share contributes to shaping a distinct image of a Personal Brand that becomes associated with our online presence.

Our digital presence has become so prominent that information about us precedes our physical arrival at a place. It’s almost as if our online persona has its own express delivery service working for it! With a lot said about ‘Personal Brand’ and ‘Digital Presence’, let’s briefly understand what signifies a ‘Personal Brand.’

Your Personal Brand is basically how people choose to remember you, your personality and your unique qualities that make you, “YOU”.

Why is it necessary to build your Personal Brand and believe in yourself as a Brand?

⇒ Over the years, the primary means of passing knowledge, learning and experience throughout mankind has been storytelling. This has been achieved through verbal communication, scriptures and artwork in locations now considered historic.

⇒ Crafting a personal brand cultivates consistency in action, subsequently building credibility and trust amongst others, where they can expect a certain standard conduct from you.

⇒ It also fosters self-belief, empowering one to pursue their aspirations with conviction and confidence.

Why is Digital Presence crucial across all age groups, irrespective of the fact whether you are a young professional, an accomplished senior professional or a budding entrepreneur?

Let us explore the importance of being digitally accessible and digitally connected:

⇒ Climbing the Career Ladder: A strong digital presence on relevant social media platforms can help to exhibit your learning, skills, and experiences across your genre of work. It gives one the exposure to showcase relevant skill sets along with the potential for upskilling in your current profile.

⇒ Content Sharing: Sharing knowledge through content has become very convenient with just the click of a button, ‘Start recording.’ This easy way of sharing enables individuals to create and disseminate information effortlessly, adding to the ocean of knowledge available at the fingertips. The barriers to sharing information nowadays are negligible and the outreach to global audiences is now better than ever.

⇒ Strategic Networking & Community Building: Building meaningful relationships by nurturing your network, participating in discussions, sharing valuable insights and community building on common grounds with like-minded individuals supports personal as well as professional goals.

Building on a personal brand through online digital presence is essential in order to enhance your knowledge, fuel continuous learning; it also opens doors to new opportunities by fostering inter-generational learning and mutual collaboration and benefit.

What are the viable means of being digitally present?

Social media platforms have billions of users worldwide, making them highly effective channels for digital presence. While video content is incredibly engaging and effective in capturing and retaining the attention of the audience, podcasting is rapidly growing as a medium for content consumption. Creating valuable content through articles, blogs and other such formats can assist in establishing expertise and attract engagement in a consecutive manner.

Some of the means of being digitally present are:

⇒ Social media platforms and professional networking sites
⇒ Personal websites, blogs, and newsletters
⇒ Email marketing
⇒ Video content and live streaming through webinars, panel discussions etc
⇒ Podcasts
⇒ Online courses and education platforms

How can combining passion with personal branding and a strong digital presence set someone apart?

Passion backed by purpose when combined with your authenticity and projected through digital platforms can be a game changer in attracting and retaining your relevant audience.

⇒ Passion drives genuine enthusiasm and authenticity, making your interactions and content more engaging and relatable, thereby building a stronger connection with your audience.

⇒ Personal branding, fueled by your passion, highlights your unique skills, experiences, and perspectives, distinguishing you from others in your field.

⇒ Consistent visibility ensures that your brand and message reach a wider audience, enhancing your visibility and influence in your niche.

⇒ Leveraging digital platforms allows you to showcase your passion and expertise, attracting opportunities for collaboration, partnerships and consequently, professional growth.

Some examples of passion-driven communities or groups that one can find online or in the vicinity include running clubs, book clubs, photography groups, gardening societies, art collectives, music ensembles, coding meetups, trekking clubs, fitness classes and many more.

Some useful tips for beginners, amateurs and those wanting to leave a mark in the digital arena while capitalizing on their Personal Brand:

⇒ Clearly identify and focus on your area of expertise or passion to attract a targeted audience.
⇒ Actively respond to comments, messages, and discussions to build relationships and trust.
⇒ Participate in online forums, webinars, and local events to expand your reach and make valuable connections.
⇒ Highlight what sets you apart from others in your field through your personal story and experiences.
⇒ Partner with established influencers or organizations active in your niche to gain exposure and credibility.
⇒ Create and distribute valuable resources like eBooks, guides, or webinars.
⇒ Use images, videos, and infographics to make your content more appealing and relatable.

One book worth reading is “Crush It!: Why NOW Is the Time to Cash In on Your Passion” by Gary Vaynerchuk. The book emphasizes the importance of leveraging digital platforms to turn your passion into a successful personal brand. Vaynerchuk provides practical advice on how to harness the power of social media, create valuable content and build a dedicated audience. With a focus on authenticity and hard work, “Crush It!” is a motivational guide that encourages readers to follow their passion and create a strong, influential online presence.

To conclude, a strong digital presence is essential at every stage of an individual’s career. It enhances visibility, showcases relevant skills, and opens doors to new opportunities. Social media platforms allow individuals to share knowledge and build strategic networks. Engaging in online communities and creating valuable content can establish one as an expert in their field with consistent efforts in that area.

Combining passion with personal branding and a robust digital presence sets individuals apart by highlighting their unique skills and perspectives. Passion drives authenticity, making content more engaging and relatable, which builds a stronger connection with the audience.

I wish all the readers a Personal Branding journey filled with growth, success and maximizing your digital potential!

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About CA Renu Shah:

Renu has over a decade of work experience in Accounting, MIS, and Budgeting, as well as Project Management and Strategic Leadership in her previous roles. An avid reader of self-help books, with a passion for continuous learning, Renu has cultivated a unique blend of financial acumen and soft skills proficiency throughout her career journey. She has recently transitioned to provide her learning and expertise gained in the areas of Personal Branding, Soft Skills and Strategic Networking while engaging with different stakeholders through teaching and consultancy.

From traditional classrooms to digital learning environments, the generational shift in student life reflects broader societal changes and technological advancements. While the traditional classroom era was characterized by face-to-face interactions and reliance on printed materials, the digital age has ushered in a new era of education marked by instant access to information, online collaboration, and personalized learning experiences.

A few examples of generational shift in student life include:

a. Learning Environment:

Present: Many educational institutions offer online courses and resources, providing flexibility in learning and access to a global network of educators and students.

Past: Learning was predominantly confined to traditional classrooms, with limited opportunities for distance learning or accessing resources outside of school.

b. Work Life Balance:

Present: Students today often juggle academics with part-time jobs, extracurricular activities, and social commitments, leading to a more hectic lifestyle.

Past: While some students worked part-time jobs, there was generally less pressure to balance multiple responsibilities, allowing for more leisure time.

c. Study Techniques:

Present: Students may utilize techniques such as online tutorials, interactive learning platforms, and educational apps to supplement their studies.

Past: Studying involved more traditional methods such as flashcards, handwritten notes, and group study sessions.

d. Focus on Mental Health:

Present: There is a greater awareness and emphasis on mental health issues among students, leading to increased support services and resources within educational institutions.

Past: Mental health issues were often overlooked or stigmatized, with limited resources available for students seeking help.

e. Access to Information:

Present: With the internet, students have instant access to a vast amount of information, making research faster and more convenient.

Past: Students had to rely on encyclopedias, physical books, and other printed materials for information which could be time-consuming to find and access.

Live Example: Research Method – Then vs. Now

In the past, students had to rely a lot on physical things to glean information. When they needed to research something, they would go to the library and look through card catalogues and piles of books to find what they needed.

These days, students use the internet for their research. Instead of going to the library, a quick search on websites helps fulfil the purpose.

AI – The Game- Changer: Artificial intelligence (AI) is revolutionizing the contemporary landscape, fundamentally altering the way we operate and innovate.

In the past, students learned in the same manner in the class. But now, with AI, learning is more personalized. AI helps teachers understand each student better, so they can teach in a way that works best for the student. It is like having a smart helper in the classroom! AI also makes learning more fun with cool technology, like virtual reality. So, instead of just reading books, students can experience them in a whole new way. Overall, AI has changed education by making it more flexible and exciting for everyone involved. In India, AI is making a big impact too. It is helping teachers better understand each student’s needs and even handle administrative tasks such as like admissions and grading.

But there are some challenges too, like students relying too much on AI or using it to cheat. Schools need to be careful and use AI responsibly to ensure that no one abuses the power of AI. Overall, AI is a game-changer in Indian education, helping create a better learning experience for all.

The Benefits of Understanding: Understanding the generational shift in student life is imperative for parents, professors, teachers, educationists, policy makers alike.

⇒ Improve Teaching Practices: By understanding the differences in student experiences across generations, educators can adapt their teaching methods to cater to the diverse learning preferences of today’s students.

⇒ Preserve Cultural Heritage: Reflecting on the evolution of student life over time is also important for preserving cultural heritage and collective memory.

⇒ Frame Appropriate Educational Policy: Recognizing how student life has evolved over time can inform educational policy makers about the changing needs and preferences of students.

⇒ Support Student Wellbeing: Awareness of the challenges and pressures faced by modern students, such as information overload, digital distractions, and mental health issues, is essential for providing adequate support and resources.

In essence, knowing the generational shift in student life then and now allows us to adapt and evolve our educational practices, support systems, and societal norms to better meet the needs of present and future generations of students. As we reflect on the changes, let us embrace the positives and look forward to a future where every student can thrive, equipped with the skills and support they need to succeed in a rapidly changing world.

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About the author –

Dhwanil holds a Global MBA in Finance from S P Jain School of Global Management and finished a certificate course in Forensic Audit from GFSU. With nearly 9 years of experience which also includes working in the Forensic and Fraud Investigation department of a Big 4 firm, and in the Audit and Assurance department of a large Indian firm. He enjoys traveling and exploring new ideas. He is a regular contributor to the journal of the Vasai Branch of the Western India Chartered Accountants Students Association of ICAI. He has recently launched his own consultancy company. He can be reached on djjhaveri7@gmail.com

“Good morning, thangam!” a voice rang, accompanied with his customary cough. (thangam means gold in Tamil). My thatha – my grandpa called out affectionately to me, sitting in his favourite armchair placed in the left corner of the veranda, in front of our house. This was his morning ritual, reading the newspaper while simultaneously sipping his morning tea.

I responded, “Good morning, thatha!” It was a pleasant Sunday morning – I had managed to get a few days off amidst my hectic articleship days and had dashed off to my hometown to spend time with him. I sat beside him on the floor, with my coffee cup, pulling out a section of a newspaper from the stack arranged before him. While reading the newspaper, as usual, a lot of questions came to my mind. I did not need to Google or surf online. Because the man sitting on the armchair is my very own Wikipedia. Shooting tonnes of questions is a natural habit of mine – answering them patiently, one after the other, was his. Thatha would pick up a particular news item which, according to him, would be useful to me. That is how he injected the habit of reading newspapers in me!

Gradually he started to inquire about my work and workplace, “How is work?”, he asked.  “All good, thatha”, I replied in an unconvincing tone. “What makes you give a confused reply, thangam?” he gently asked. Without a second of hesitation, I poured out my heart to him. “I miss home terribly, thatha. I miss our family terribly. I miss you terribly!”, I cried. “Sacrifices are essential for you to achieve your goals, thangam. Coming out of your comfort zone is the real game of growth”, he quoted. “What is the point of having goals and growth in this uncertain life, thatha?” I asked. “Oh! That was deep – let me try and answer that”, he said.

 “To have a goal is to stay focused. An idle mind is the devil’s workshop. If you are sincerely working towards something that you feel is important and honest, the positivity you feel and radiate is priceless. Who said goals must be higher and bigger? All you need to consider is, are you happy in the process? And you need to suffer at times to realise how precious the gift of happiness is. Life is a balance of both, thangam”, he added.

How could this man have apt answers for every single question? – my mind voiced to me. Be it doubts or my accomplishments. The first person within my family I would share these with, would be him. He would get more excited than I would, witnessing my triumphs. Whenever I shared my achievements with him, my family knew what would be his reaction – they could give anyone a running commentary without even having witnessed the event. Each time, tears would roll down his cheeks and he would rhythmically tap his thighs, to express his emotions.

Once, I narrated to him an incident where I was appreciated for moderating a motivational session. After his customary response, he wiped off his own tears and asked, “How are people out there?” “People?….” I dragged, “Yeah! They are good, thatha”, I added.

He looked at me with love in his eyes and said, “People are different, thangam. You may like some and dislike others. But learning to tackle people – now that is an art. Your world has widened now. It is not just our family anymore. Make conversations and explore different minds. Do not get attached though. Someday we are all going to leave our bodies. There is no point in attaching ourselves to people and material things, which are the root cause of all major suffering. Be who you are and not a reflection of what they are. Amidst a lot of negativities in the world, be a person who spreads positivity and love. If you give love without any expectation, it will come back to you in unexpected ways, thangam. Trust me!” he said.

It took me a few seconds to realise that I was not in a philosophy class anymore. “Sure thatha!”, I replied. I felt truly blessed having this one person in my life who would give me proper answers, even though their questions were unasked.

Suddenly, I remembered that my tuition teacher, who had taught me during my school days, had invited me over to her house. I told my thatha of my decision to visit her sometime in the next week – the reason being laziness, which both of us knew.

“Life is too short, thangam. Everyone has a very limited time. Life is unpredictable! Who knows what will happen the next minute. Embrace the present. Just live the moment! Do not make your people wait for you ever. Else, the regret would be huge”, he said and got ready to go to his room for his morning shower before breakfast. “Ok thatha. I will visit her today at 5.00 pm”, I replied. “That’s great!”, he replied.

It is now eighteen months since thatha left us. I sit on his armchair in the veranda, with my cup of coffee – a pile of newspaper stacked beside me, and of course, my mobile phone ready to clear any doubts I may have. I now ask myself questions – and wait for life to answer them. I cherishing his teachings – which remain etched in my heart like inscriptions on the temple walls. My source of comfort and learning is no longer outside of me, my thatha resides within me, in my heart – something for which I am truly grateful!

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About the Author:

Sutharsha Rajaprakash, a B.com graduate, is currently undergoing her articleship at an eminent audit firm in Coimbatore. Born in a typical Indian family, she dreams of creating her own identity and legacy. Her happiness lies in penning down the thoughts which overflow from her overthinking mind. She loves to post quotes, poems, and review books through her Instagram handle (sutharsha_rajaprakash). Mythology, self-help books, along with biographies and autobiographies, are the genre that interest her. She is a great movie freak and an avid music lover. Her passion for singing allows her to find solace amidst the hustle and bustle of life. An aspiring public speaker, she has won many elocutions and extempore competitions. She loves both the extremes – interacting with people and the state of solitude. She has an insatiable craving towards travelling, tasting different cuisines, and exploring different cultures. Her immense belief in the universe aids her in manifesting a life just the way, she wishes it to be.

She can be reached at sutharsharajaprakash@gmail.com

The comfort of our childhood often shields us from the realities of adulthood. From meals appearing magically on the table, to the house being tidied up without lifting a finger, the cocoon of familial care envelops us in a world where responsibilities are but distant concepts. Grocery shopping? What’s that? The refrigerator and pantry seem to manage quite effortlessly, always stocked with one’s favourite treats as if by enchantment.

Our mother’s nurturing care shapes our culinary preferences, very often prioritizing our taste and liking over that of others (read adults) in the family. If a meal isn’t to our taste, she whips up something in a jiffy, ensuring we don’t go to bed hungry (and upset).

However, as years pass and we tread the path of growing up, a desire for independence simmers within. The idea of forging our own path, free from parental guidance, becomes irresistible. We long to explore life beyond the boundaries of our home, where privacy is highly regarded. Thus, when the opportunity to move out presents itself, we grasp it eagerly, excited to taste the sweet fruit of independence. It’s a rite of passage, a declaration to the world that we are ready to carve our own path, make our own decisions, and shoulder responsibilities that come with adulthood.

The transition from the familiar comforts of home, to the streets of a new city marks a significant journey for many. The excitement of a fresh start often intertwines with the challenges of bidding farewell to the familiar. Leaving home stirs a mix of emotions, blending the bittersweet taste of independence with the ache of missing family and friends. Such experiences quickly illuminate the various challenges that accompany independent living, fostering growth and self-discovery along the way.

Amidst the newfound freedom of living alone, homesickness can hit unexpectedly. In those moments, waves of longing for the warmth of family gatherings and the laughter of cherished friends wash over, leaving a lingering sense of loneliness. There’s a sadness in missing out on birthdays and anniversaries of friends and loved ones, wanting to be there in person, but having to settle for a video call instead. While technology allows virtual connections and distant conversations, there’s a unique comfort in physical presence that cannot be replicated. Despite the distance, the anticipation of the next visit home becomes a beacon of hope, a reminder that while the ache of missing loved ones may linger, there’s solace in knowing that reunions and shared moments of joy await on the horizon.

Weekdays at work breeze by, but some weekends bring a tinge of loneliness. In the solitude, one cannot help but reflect on how some friendships, like true anchors, stay strong despite the distance; while some are contingent on proximity and thrive only when tended to every day – else, they wither and fade into the background, leaving you to wonder whether the “friendship” ever meant anything beyond routine interactions. Like an unknown author said, people come into your life either for a reason, or a season, or a lifetime. Living away teaches the dynamics of many relationships. Through this experience, one learns to appreciate the enduring presence of true friends who stick around regardless, while cherishing the memories of those who gracefully fade into the past.

From learning to budget, to mastering the art of grocery shopping, the initial months are sure to be a rollercoaster of growth. Who had imagined adulting would involve so many spreadsheets? House hunting? A task and a half! It’s a delicate dance between compromise and wishful thinking. From the cozy apartments, to the studios, the options seem endless. Yet, finding the one that checks all (at least most of all!) the boxes is like searching for a needle in a haystack.

Amidst the challenges, the daily routine of independent living becomes lessons in responsibility. Mastering the art of making the bed and doing laundry brings a sense of self-sufficiency. These mundane tasks, once ‘outsourced’, symbolize tangible growth in the newfound independence.

Amidst the homesickness and language barrier, there’s a glimmer of hope – the opportunity to embrace the unknown, to learn and grow in ways never imagined. With each stumbling conversation and missed bus stop, there’s a lesson in resilience and adaptability. And slowly, as the days turn into weeks and the weeks into months, the unfamiliarity of the city starts to dissolve some more. This is sure to be a transformative journey, with an undeniable thrill of exploring new places and embracing the unfamiliar. Each corner turned, every street walked, and every new face encountered is a chapter in the exciting novel of personal growth.

And then there’s the realization that it’s absolutely okay to do things alone. Eating in a restaurant, watching a movie – solo adventures do have their own charm. Here’s to the highs and lows, missing home-cooked meals, and discovering beauty in the uncomfortable.

Embracing the change unfolds as a gradual process, highlighting the fact that it is indeed the only constant. Through this journey, a previously unrecognized resilience is discovered. To all navigating a new chapter away from home – here’s a shoutout – go on, chase those dreams, embrace those uncertainties, create your own path, persevere and celebrate every victory – big or small.

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About Kush:

Kush is a new member of the Association of Chartered Certified Accountants (ACCA), bringing with him a background in internal audit. Currently, he contributes to the GRCS team at a Big4 firm. Beyond the confines of his professional pursuits, Kush is passionate about baking and cooking. He is also an avid traveller.

Having recently embarked on a journey of relocation to a new city, this is the first piece of writing he has tried wherein he candidly shares insights on what he’s learned from living on his own, facing both tough times and successes.

He can be reached on kushinduja@hotmail.com

In the sacred chambers of every soul, an epic battle echoes – a relentless clash between the noble might of Ram and the intricate complexities of Ravana, declaring in unison, “We’ve all got a Ram and a Ravana inside us; the choice, the thunderous roar of destiny lies in which force we empower.”

When discussions twirl around the eternal battle of light versus dark, my mind invariably turns to the legendary tale of Ram and Ravana in the Ramayana. The dance of dualities finds its rhythm in this narrative, illustrating not only the age-old battle of good versus evil but also serving as an exploration into human nature and psychology. Within each of us, there exists the potential to sway towards the light or the dark – to empower the virtuous Ram or the mischievous Ravana within. Our true strength lies in our willingness to consciously choose to be better.

Amidst the trending personality quizzes, let us give a nod to Carl Jung, for attempting to map the human psyche as broadly as possible. He wisely put it:

“To be quite accurate, human nature is simply what it is; it has its dark and its light sides. The sum of all colours is grey – light on a dark background or dark on light.”

Born in the sunny island of Sri Lanka to a sage, Ravana was not just a mischievous demon king. No, indeed! He wore the crown of a king, the laurels of a scholarly genius, the mantle of an extraordinary ruler, and even the hat of a veena maestro. Talk about having a multi-talented villain in the neighbourhood! But alas, despite his intellectual prowess and multitasking finesse, he struggled to implement his vast knowledge. It is akin to possessing a palette of vibrant neon colours, but choosing only shades of grey to paint your canvas.

In the grand scheme of things, Ravana emerges as a character painted in hues of grey, much like the rest of us. But here is the kicker – his evil deeds spoke a lot louder than his knowledge, etching his name in history as a symbol of darkness. Exactly what Albus Dumbledore meant when he said, “It is our choices that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities”.

In our internal tug-of-war, where virtues and vices engage in a waltz of profound complexity, let us delve into transformative self-help insights, guiding the human psyche through the entwined narratives of Ram and Ravana as they share the stage, throwing not only punches but also thought-provoking punchlines.

Embrace your inner Ram and Ravana: Begin the journey of self-discovery by embracing the profound co-existence of light and dark within. Self-help embarks on a transformative path, encouraging us to embrace the entirety of our being, recognising the noble virtues akin to Ram and the complex intricacies reminiscent of Ravana. Your inner Ravana should no longer be shrouded in secrecy – the shadows within should no longer be branded as inherent evil. Instead, they are the facets of human experience that, when recognised and accepted, foster profound understanding, promoting personal growth and resilience. Time to witness the unexpected alliance of Ram and Ravana – shaking hands with each other – they are in a tag team like no other!

Conscious Choice – The VIP section of Destiny’s Nightclub: The legacy we leave is crafted through the choices we make. Enter the realm of wisdom as Dumbledore reemerges. No, he is not pulling any rabbits out of hats; he is pulling profound wisdom out of his sleeves. Your abilities are the show props, but the real magic lies in the choices you make, evoking thunderous applause from the audience! Ravana did possess the show props, but his magic show never met success!

Dive into the realm of conscious decision-making, where self-help prompts us to recognize that true strength lies in our ability to make choices that align with our higher virtues. Picture yourself in the VIP section of Destiny’s Nightclub, making conscious choices while sipping on wisdom cocktails. And the Club’s ideal bouncer? The Ram inside you – ensuring that only the virtuous get past the velvet rope. Because who wants the mischievous Ravana causing chaos in the VIP lounge of your life?

Ravana’s Internal Struggles- A Cautionary Tale in Self-Help: Reflect on Ravana’s narrative as a cautionary tale within the self-help paradigm. What cast him as the villain of the story? Were his traits influenced by the stains left on his soul through trials like Vedavathi’s curse, weaving a web of guilt and remorse? Perhaps it was the strained relationship with his brother Vibhishana, marked by betrayal and dissent, or the loss of Mandodari’s unwavering support and understanding. Did Ravana require a PhD in internal chaos management, and could therapy have been the solution? Does not that leave us pondering whether such interventions could have genuinely altered the trajectory of Ravana’s character?

Now, asking for help might sound scarier than a horror movie marathon, but hey, even Ravana could have used a little therapy. Admitting you need help may demand an extraordinary amount of courage and strength, but the transformative power it holds can reshape your life for the better. Embrace the opportunity to rewrite your story or to give it a better ending, because why not – your life could probably use a few plot twists along the way!

Mindful Living – The VIP Backstage Pass: Mindful living is not just a backstage pass; it is the VIP backstage pass to the concert of your life! Integrate the lessons learned from Ram and Ravana’s dance into daily life. Mindful living, a cornerstone of self-help, involves being present in every decision, acknowledging the dance of dualities within, and aligning actions with the values that lead to personal fulfilment and growth. In your grand journey, find solace in the awareness that every thread, every choice weaves a narrative uniquely yours – an epic worthy of celestial archives!

In the wise words of Sirius Black, “We’ve all got both light and dark inside us. What matters is the part we choose to act on. That’s who we really are.” So, choose your dance moves wisely, because my friend, you are not just the dancer; you are the choreographer of your destiny!

May your journey be filled with your choice of punchlines, plot twists that align with your virtues and a standing ovation for the lead dancer – you!

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About the author:

Srinidhi Vinod, a B. Com graduate is currently on her quest to conquer the realm of Chartered Accountancy, undergoing articleship at a leading audit firm in Coimbatore. Beyond the rigours of number crunching, she harbours a deep passion for art, finding pure joy in creative pursuits. Diving into the magical world of literature, she finds refuge in the spellbinding tales of Harry Potter. She also delights in embarking on culinary adventures, earning her the title of a foodie. Her love for reading and travel serve as the wind beneath her curious wings to unravel the world around her.

She can be reached on srinidhiv19@gmail.com

Most use ‘worthiness’ as a fancy concept, but few dig deep to understand what’s hidden beneath something so powerful. As evident, unworthiness is a malady which afflicts all mankind. As an age-old epidemic, it creeps into the system, feeding on the ego since forever.

In these modern times, every person suffers from the perils of competition and comparison, which makes one feel unworthy of fully expressing their uniqueness. Consequently, we all become perpetual doers trying to prove our worth by stressing/ stretching to gather accolades and appreciations from significant others.

It’s obvious that only the ego wins in such a battle against oneself. Sadly, our value is measured by what we do rather than Who We Are. Intrinsically, this is how our society conditions us, preparing us for failure and disappointments. Strangely, in the name of hard work, we begin attracting hardships, primarily because we believe that we are unworthy of success if we haven’t struggled enough.

Not surprising, the statistics for unworthiness felt by women far exceeds that felt by men, as a woman’s threshold for endurance is way higher than her counterpart’s. Women are ranked somewhere at the lower bottom on the scale of worthiness. Interestingly, women are themselves responsible for getting to this stage, because undoubtedly, they are good at doubting their whole purpose and existence. So, what really is unworthiness and why is it particularly of concern for women! Let’s explore the broad spectrum of how it has damaged the core essence of the female fraternity.

As children, we are all born worthy, experiencing the Self as pure consciousness. However, education and conditioning create the idea of separation from Source. Soon, we start investing our powers in others and adhering to their commands, believing that everybody else knows what is best for us, other than our own selves. For a woman, this manipulation begins rather early because she is made to believe that she is inferior to a man.

The interesting thing to note here is that a woman always knows that she is being trampled upon, misjudged and also misled, but the courage to stand up for who she is always takes a back seat. The question here is, when will a woman show up to honour her wellbeing and embrace her femininity?

The truth is that women are positioned at the leading edge of the universe, representing Mother Earth, the Shakti, which is the seat of manifestation. Wouldn’t it be great if women begin seeing themselves for who they are, and claim what’s theirs to celebrate and cherish? It’s crucial that the Kundalini is awakened so this power operates at its highest potential and guides humankind towards their evolution.

The time is now and the job is ours to do. Many will crumble under the fear of opening up to Source because our treasure has long been hidden from us, hence women are known to belittle themselves, not knowing that it’s a disgrace to not celebrate the feminine energy. As the woman breathes life into matter, it’s her privilege to rise before the sun and embrace her own light.

Dear Woman, are you ready for such a destiny that calls for you to prioritise your purpose over your personal agendas? For only those women will be deemed Heros in the truest sense, and who are ready to be christened as Goddesses.

Claiming one’s worthiness is not a battle to be fought where others stand across the fence. It’s not a war outside, but it certainly is a war within. If women are done shadowing others, then they must know that they would have to create breakthroughs in the way they perceive the world.

Most women are busy victimising themselves and in doing so, they play small, satisfied as being the ones who sacrifice. Morality overpowers authenticity every single time. It’s important to recognise that when a woman seeks attention by playing ‘poor me’, she compromises on her dignity by choosing a poor substitute instead of declaring that She exists.

As women, we need to let the world know that we have the power to alter destinies. Many fight for women empowerment, but only those who believe that they are not empowered join the clan. Here is where we need to change gears.

Are we ready to believe that we are equal?

A woman doesn’t have to fight for her worthiness, she IS worthy. She only has to Believe that She Is. This will require not just courage but also commitment to rise above the conditioning of treating the self as secondary. And to do that, we’d need to fight the demons of our own minds. Indeed, it is the mind that needs an overhaul! Our minds are our creative tools and once we alter the hardened neurological pathways, the universe will oblige the Devi within. Nothing comes in our way as much as we do. This is the seeming challenge to conquer.

There are umpteen ways that can be exemplified as a ‘To Do List’ for a woman to follow, so she feels worthy. But that’s not the focus here. Nor are we suggesting any pills on worthiness. This article is a wake-up call to all the beautiful women who need to awaken to their own inner power and inner beauty, so as to recognise that they are the Source of their own joy, love and peace. That they need nothing to complete themselves for they are whole and complete already.

This is a reminder to every Parvati, that her Shiva is within her and she can feel safe and secure in her own Being. This is for You and Me to know and believe that we are magnificent and our hearts are abodes of divine love. And when it comes to worthiness, it’s now totally up to us to honour it. We can’t wait any longer for somebody to announce it to us.

Claiming our worthiness is about creating a vibrational shift in the way we feel about ourselves. And if we have to bring that shift today, then we will have to claim the Divine feminine and appreciate that we are made in the image and likeness of Maa Durga, Lakshmi and Saraswati. If this isn’t enough for us to awaken to our true identity, then what is?

WAKE UP WOMAN, FOR YOU ARE WORTHY! YOU ARE SOURCE AND A PRECIOUS PRICELESS GEM! AHAM BRAHAMASAMI…..SOURCE I AM!

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About : Naz Chougley

Naz is an Aspirations Coach, an Emotional Therapist and a Meditation Teacher with over 20 years of experience. Her expertise involves providing perspectives beyond the confines of the logical mind, to support working professionals as well as individuals across all age groups. As a Law of Attraction Teacher, she helps people question their limiting beliefs, aspire higher and set intentions for personal evolution. She instils the values of gratitude, surrenderance, humility, acceptance, appreciation and present moment awareness. Her purpose is to enhance the wellbeing of people and enable them to recognise their worthiness, so they can attract their personal abundance.

Naz can be reached on nazclg@gmail.com

A new drug has recently been making its way around town, turning its consumers into addicts. After enslaving the adult population, it has now turned its attention towards the younger generation. Do you know what I’m talking about? It’s nothing but smartphone addiction.

It all began with the empty swings in the park. The playground is now less crowded than it used to be. COVID-19 had a definite impact, but our children have not ventured outside their homes even after COVID-19. Why should they when they have their friend Mr. Ring-Ring at home?

To keep the kids entertained, we’ve designed their lives so that they can’t eat without watching a YouTube video or sleep without playing a mobile game. Worse, children now have access to the internet and the dark corners of social media, where they are exposed to inappropriate content for their age. Are we denying our children the opportunity to experience childhood?

With so much dependence on smartphones, we are raising an army of human robots devoid of human touch, healthy lifestyles, emotions, and feelings. They turn out to be overly smart, dishonest, selfish, and competitive, with little or no regard for the well-being of others. But are they the ones to blame?

Children follow in the footsteps of their elders. But what can be done when the older generation themselves, cannot live without their smart toys?

This reminds me of a recent conversation I came to know about –
M – Rahul!!! Finished dinner?
R – Not yet Mom.
M – Look at the time. What are you up to now?
R – I’m with the boys’ mom. I’ll eat soon.
M – Don’t lie to me. Finish dinner now and then do whatever you want to.
R – The boys are waiting for me, Mom.
M – You are finishing dinner now, or do you want me to come up to your room now and take away your phone?
R – No ma. Give me 5 mins. We’re just wrapping up this group call. I’ll TTYL.
M – OK (Thumbs up)

You’ve probably guessed by now. This is not a typical conversation. The mother and her son are texting about dinner while sitting in the same house; the son is on the phone with his friends. This is where the world is heading. With a smartphone in hand, the entire family has retreated into separate rooms to stay connected with the unreal world, forgetting about the people who live with them in the same house.

We have already lost a lot due to our smartphones without even realizing it –

1. Falling attention span –

Did you know that people’s attention spans are getting shorter? According to Dr. Gloria Mark’s research, average screen attention was 2.5 minutes in 2004, 75 seconds in 2012, and 47 seconds in the last five years.

According to research, young adults aged 18 to 25 check their phones 56 times per day, or every 15 minutes.  This is largely due to the constant flow of information we face daily. Our phones are flooded with notifications, some of which are useful but many of which are not, so it is critical to be mindful of what distracts our productivity.

2. Negative impact on relationships –

With the increased usage of WhatsApp and SMS, we have reduced the number of face-to-face interactions with the people around us. We have lost the ability to read faces and to understand feelings through quivering voices. Nowadays, true intentions and feelings are hidden behind various emoticons that don’t even come close to expressing what one is feeling. We’ve started living in a world that is far from reality.

3. Increasing mental health issues –

Excessive social media use has been linked to depression caused by comparison and feelings of inadequacy. There has also been undue pressure to conform to a particular way of life or standard. This is because someone’s reality is frequently compared to another’s polished bright lifestyle. However, what one fails to understand is the reality behind the scenes of the bright smiles.

So, how do we step out of this addiction?

1. Acceptance and self-awareness –

The first step towards self-improvement is admitting that you need to change. The next thing to do is to figure out the level of addiction. Ironically, several apps on the internet can tell you how much time you spend on your phone. If you spend more than 4-5 hours per day on your phone, it’s time to reconsider your lifestyle.

By beginning to monitor your usage and determining when and where you spend your time, you can become more aware of how you spend it and decide what is important enough to allow as a distraction. You could also try a digital detox weekend to see how you’d do without your phone.

2. Reduce usage of infinity pool apps –

Dopamine is known as the “feel-good hormone,” and it is the hormone that motivates you to do numerous activities. Authors of the book “Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day” discuss how certain apps are like infinity pools and can steal the dopamine meant for doing difficult tasks. Infinity pools are apps that entice you with constant engagement, making it difficult to leave. An example is the never-ending reels on Instagram and YouTube. They provide you with never-ending content with a single swipe of your hand, and you don’t realize that with each swipe, you are swiping away hours and extinguishing your dopamine secretion.

3. Replace with healthier habits –

The best way to break a bad habit is to replace it with a good one, and the best way to stop spending time on the phone is by using it for something else. The next time you feel your phone is drawing you in, pick up a book instead or start a new hobby that does not involve the internet. Do you require a short break?  Try going for a short walk without your phone. There will be a sense of loss at first, but this is how you will eventually gain freedom.

While our smartphones allow us to stay connected to the world 24 hours a day, they also take away our real world without our noticing. It is our responsibility as adults and elders to steer clear of this addiction and set good examples for the younger generation.

There is a Tamil proverb that translates to, “Even too much nectar is poison.”

It’s high time we break free from these 5.5-inch cages and enjoy the sweetness of the nectar in limited quantities.

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About the Author – CA. R. Shruthi

Shruthi Rajaram is a Chartered Accountant and Certified Fraud Examiner by profession, and a writer by passion. She currently holds a prominent role as an Internal Auditor in the Banking and Financial Services space. In her free time, you can find her face inside the pages of a heavy book. She is an active writer and writes across various social media platforms. She is interested in topics of Human Psychology, Mindset, Biases, Habits, and Personal Development. She believes that there are no limits in life, and if there are, they are there only to be broken. Her long-term ambition is to write a best-selling book and be a member of the writing staff for a thriller television series.

She can be reached on: @ www.linkedin.com/in/shruthi-rajaram or @ shroothi.r@gmail.com

Though many of us have grumbled about not getting along with either the younger or older generation, have we ever wondered why this happens? Have we ever thought about why we are unable to relate to both these generations? Is it just the age we live in? What is this generation divide all about?

We all have feelings that we encounter on a daily basis. They add colour and purpose to our life, making it intriguing and fulfilling. Emotions, whether they be joy, sorrow, rage or love, have a significant impact on how we perceive and engage with the outside world. We experience extreme joy and excitement on occasions, and sadness or angst on another. Emotions have a significant impact on how we feel, think, act, and interact with others. Understanding our emotions makes life’s journey more rewarding and joyful by assisting us in making sense of who we are and of the people around us.

The term “generation gap” describes the differences and occasionally, the misunderstandings that take place between persons of various ages. Every generation has its own values, beliefs, and life experiences. Conflicts or disagreements between older and younger people can result from this. Each generation may perceive the other as either being out of touch with contemporary culture or lacking in their regard for our rich traditional practices. Acknowledging and accepting these distinctions can foster greater inter-generational harmony and partnership, enabling all people to share knowledge and collaborate for a better future.

Have you realised that emotional divide is another factor contributing to the generation gap? The emotional bond that we form with someone also determines the distance we feel from them.

In January 2023, I visited one of the tourist spots known as PARAMBIKULAM. The place borders both the states of Tamilnadu and Kerala and is home to many plants and animals. Parambikulam is a reserve forest and serves as one of the major water sources for both states. We were staying nearly 30 kms away from the dam and we were taken on a jungle safari to visit it.

The safari took us through a dense forest, after nearly 5 kilometers, we suddenly came across a small settlement of families. The next 25 kms were again through the dense forest with no human beings in sight. My thoughts, after travelling 30 kms, were still with the people in the settlement. All I had noticed were a few small houses, a temple, a small school probably for the kids there and a football ground. I felt EMOTIONALLY connected with them, and empathized with them – how terrible it must be for them – should a medical emergency arise, they have to travel to the nearby town called POLLACHI which is 50 kms away.

A few months later, in April 2023, I travelled to another place called MIRIK, a two-hour tedious journey from Siliguri. The road was literally a two-way track through a steep ghat section. I saw few settlements throughout the journey. They had no development facilities. I did not see any school or primary health center. All the residents between Siliguri and Mirik need to travel to either of these places in case of an emergency. Once I reached Mirik, however, I had forgotten about the people I saw during my journey. I enjoyed the pleasant weather, and was very eager to explore the place, its culture, its food, and way of living.

Once I returned to my hometown, I reminisced about both these trips, and I suddenly wondered – WHY WAS I NOT IN THE POSITION TO EMOTIONALLY CONNECT WITH THE PEOPLE ON MY WAY TO MIRIK AS I HAD DONE ON MY PREVIOUS TRIP?

After a lot of introspection, I realised that it was due to the emotional connection I felt with the culture and people in Parambikulam.

Every now and then I meet a lot of new people. As a Chartered Accountant, I have several opportunities to regularly talk to elders and youngsters alike – who are either my clients, professional acquaintances or articled assistants. In life as we age, we find it hard to understand the young more and more. We choose to blame the generation gap and move on.

We give so much importance to the intelligence quotient (IQ), but we never try to understand our own emotions. As we grow, we must mature, and as we go around interacting with people of all ages, we must adapt to their varied emotional needs.

The fact that I was able to connect emotionally with the local people (who were essentially my contemporaries) and was unable to do so with the other people (who were either younger or older than me) made a dent in my emotional quotient (EQ).

I believe that our profession demands that we equip ourselves to match the younger generation to stay in the competition – especially in the understanding and use of technological advancements. But no one has taught us how to stay emotionally connected with the younger or older generations. No one has taught us how to understand their emotional needs.

A quote that I read somewhere by the American journalist and social-political activist, Gloria Steinem comes to mind, “WE NEED TO REMEMBER ACROSS GENERATIONS THAT THERE IS AS MUCH TO LEARN AS THERE IS TO TEACH”

We are so very eager to teach when someone approaches us; we never get into the emotional need of the other generation. How beautiful would this world be if we stop, empathize, and try to understand each other EMOTIONALLY rather than hastily labelling these encounters. Until we start making an effort, the bridge will never get built.

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About the Author – CA M. Maalan Bharathi

Maalan Bharathi is a practicing chartered accountant from Coimbatore. He enjoys speaking and has spoken to students on a variety of subjects. He is pursuing several certifications in emotional intelligence since he is fascinated by understanding human emotions. Under the pen name “underage optimist”, he has written a variety of pieces because he loves to write so much.

He can be reached on: maalan.manickam@gmail.com

Since my childhood, I have wondered why my life is different. Is that the same doubt everyone has? Though we have distinct physical features, we hate comparison. Though we can see the path taken by successful people, we hesitate to follow them. Are we obsessed with being unique, or at the very least, safeguarding our originality? Our originality oozes out with the choices we make or the chances we take.

The favourite formative years:

With love and respect for the superstar Rajinikanth which is an integral code in every South Indian’s DNA, I remember my favourite line from a song featured in the famous movie ‘Padayappa’ which translated means, “We cannot choose either our parents, our physique, our birth or our death”.

The lyricist concludes by elucidating that the only choice we have is to ace the art of living the life we want.

The events of the past may appear faded in the albums but are still fresh in my memory. From an innocent kindergarten kid, I struggled through primary school with more than my fair share of an inferiority complex. The transformation came in the secondary school where I became bolder, only to reach my first milestone of rejection and failure in the higher secondary. Looking back now, these were my formative years.

The bud-to-blossom phase:

I vividly remember that Saturday evening, it was 2nd April 2011, I was on study leave for my 10th standard board exams, my eyes reluctantly glued to the screen of old CRT computer monitor, while everyone around me sat on the edge of their chairs/ sofas/ stools staring with bated breath at the television screen. The quiet was pierced by Ravi Shastri on the commentator mic, “Dhoni finishes off in style. A magnificent strike into the crowd! India lifts the World Cup after 28 years! “

For the very first time, I witnessed my 47-year-old dad transform into a young 19-year-old teen reliving the exhilarating event of the past. The joy and ecstasy on the faces of my father and brother made them appear to be siblings rather than father and son. I realised that such moments are a rarity and thrust away my biology books to vociferously join them in the celebrations. For a split second, I dared wonder, how would it be if I could do something which would be so life defining and exciting for my father. That moment and my thought is forever etched in my mind.

From a kid who had a singular goal of getting single-digit rank in term exams and revision exams, I started dreaming of becoming a responsible citizen. I started dreaming of wearing a doctor coat, a lawyer coat, a camouflaged police uniform, a civil servant and what not!

I prepared for the 12th board exams like a beast with subject books being my only priority. I ignored my health – both physical and mental and lost the race by a few marks. This setback in my higher secondary taught me the invaluable lesson of the need to have a Plan B with Plan A. This event brought about a very important paradigm shift, both internally and externally. Though the scent of flowers is inherent within the bud, the fragrance spreads only when the flower blossoms. Likewise, our core values and purpose emerge only as we mature.

First chance to make own choice:

I followed my gut and joined the National Cadet Corps. I was now straddling three disciplines, studying as an under-grad, I was also studying to be a CA and was an NCC cadet. My well-wishers advised me that I would be, “A jack of all trades, and a master of none”. My inner voice kept telling me, “A jack of all trades is a master of none, but often times better than a master of one”.

NCC was a decision made by choice, and CA was a decision by chance. Both have worked and shaped my nature. I am gratified that while I may not have become a Dhoni, I am Abi who is able to stand up for her own.

Decisions by choices make us and by chance mould us:

The decisions made by choice and taken by chance mould the individual. The former teaches us the importance of structured planning, being proactive and having systematic approach towards our goal. The latter teaches us the value of being bold enough to go with one’s gut feel, embrace a highly uncertain (and at times risky) outcome, the fine distinction between responding and reacting.

The choices we make and the chances we take always revolve around our core values and purpose. The universe aligns the decisions taken by chance with those made by choice. Makes one wonder when opportunities fall in one’s lap at the right place and time, in the larger scheme of things, is this a coincidence, magic, or just pre-connected dots!

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About the Author: CA Abirami K, ACA, B.Sc Maths (Comp. Application)

A qualified Chartered Accountant working at a prominent bank as Relationship Manager in mid-Corporate Group. While pursuing graduation in Bachelor of Mathematics with Computer Application in PSG College of Arts and Science, Coimbatore, her interest toward accountancy prompted her to become a Chartered accountant. During her under-grad days, as a sergeant with the NCC, she led her contingent as Parade Commander. She represented her college for Best Cadet competition in Republic Day Training Camps.

After working with a software major for 1.5 years, her amiable nature made her switch gears to choose banking sector. Her belief in fitness (both physical and mental) sees her actively participating in marathons, while cycling extensively on weekends. She is part of the ‘Smiles that Shine’ on Sunday mornings through HAPPY STREETS, an event which encourages the public to come out onto the streets to socialize every Sunday morning through a wide array of activities. She has recently enrolled as a volunteer teacher with an NGO called U & I.

Of the many quotes I love, the following three have created a great impact within me:

1. Expectation is the root cause of all mental agony.
2. What goes around, comes around.
3. Do not let your left hand know what your right hand is giving!

I understood the true meaning of the first two quotes when I read a story about a saint in a book. Back in the 1970s, a saint was sitting with his disciples near a water body, discussing various topics. A businessman, who was an ardent devotee of the saint, came there. He said, “Guruji, this year, I made an enormous profit in my business, and I want to donate some of it to you”. He placed a huge bundle of cash at the saint’s feet. The saint looked at the money and then glanced up at the businessman. He once again looked down at the bundle and then up at the businessman who stood with folded hands in front of him. Reading the thoughts that were running through the businessman’s mind, to everyone’s surprise, he suddenly picked up the money and hurled it into the water.

His disciples were stunned but did not react as they knew that the saint had done this for a purpose. On the other hand, the expression on the businessman’s face immediately changed. Containing the streak of rage that ran through him, he asked the saint in a pained voice, “Guruji, how can such an enlightened soul like you do this? The money could have been used for various developmental activities of the ashram. Why did you throw the money into the water?”

The saint calmly looked at the man and asked him to summarise all that that happened. The businessman narrated the events. The saint asked him, “Did I receive the money from you?” to which the businessman replied, “Yes, you received it from me”. The saint then said, “As soon as I received the money from your hands, it became mine – to do whatever I would wish to do it. Why then are you still attached to it if it is charity?”

The businessman realised his mistake. Although he had physically parted with the money, he was still attached to it mentally (subtly). The saint had helped him realise that true charity is the one done without any attachment. The businessman apologised for his ignorance. The money was retrieved from the water, dried and then used for the intended purposes.

This story created a deep impact within me at a time when I was going through a particular phase in my life. Very often, we meet people who come to us seeking some assistance. We help them and feel quite pleased and regard ourselves as being their benefactor of sorts. After reading the story I realised that whatever one gives, it must be done wholeheartedly, without any expectation in return. The Universe is a meticulous accountant, it will keep a detailed account, tally and give it back in some other way. Our problem is that we expect it back from the same person whom we helped, and when there is no reciprocation, we feel let down.

Eventually, I did witness this pattern in my life. Whenever I share knowledge or help someone, I might not get anything in return, but later whenever I require assistance, the Universe will beautifully arrange the situations around me to make it happen. The two important aspects will be: (1) It might not be from the same person (whom) I helped earlier (2) It will not come back as soon as I helped/ shared. It takes its own sweet time, just to test my patience and detachment level. Ultimately, by the end of the day, I will have received what I need.

At times, one sees people publicise their deeds of charity. I feel it contradicts the third quote “Do not let your left hand know what your right hand is giving”. Once I was talking to one of my mentors who revealed a different paradigm to this quote. He said, “There can be another way of interpreting this quote. It does not literally mean that you must keep the deed as a secret from other people. There can be deeper meanings – the left hand refers to the ego and hence one is not supposed get into the egoistic feeling while donating. Also, when the wrong doers make so much noise regarding the wrong, the doers of good need to make noise about the good that they are doing! This will inspire others to do good and the positive noise will help drown the negative noise! However, the doer of good needs to ensure that he does not feed his ego by portraying himself as a benefactor”. This conversation with my mentor, along with the above story made me realise the profound lesson that if we are detached from our actions, we will not be disappointed or disheartened in anyway.

So, let’s be reassured that:

1. Expectation is the root cause of all mental agony.
2. What goes around, comes around.
3. Do not let your left hand (ego) know what your right hand (soul) is giving!

Our ancestors have said, “Generally whenever something is given, it’s quantity is reduced, but the one thing that multiples even when given is knowledge”. Hence with the above reassurances, let us share whatever we know with an open heart and let us make this world an insightful place to live in. Have a beautiful day.

 

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About: Mr. Lakshmanan,

An Engineer turned Chartered Accountant who secured All India Rank-2 in CA Intermediate exams, he is a Chartered Accountant by profession and a speaker by passion. He is fascinated with the idea of integrating automation in workspace and works actively to do so. His passion to share knowledge and help people around him has led him to start various significant initiatives and virtual groups. He has addressed many CA students regarding improving their study techniques and personal productivity. He loves to read books from various genres, including self-help, biographies, and spirituality. His ability to decode and simplify concepts by applying humour and interesting stories makes him a sought-after speaker.

He can be reached on : lak93.7@gmail.com

It is often said that the best gift we can give our children is Education. Indians have taken this adage to a whole new level with Indian parent’s, especially the belly (read bulging middle class) of India becoming obsessive about education. The picture below is self-descriptive and explains the Helicopter Parenting well.

Education has thus emerged as one of the largest industries in the country, and with commercialisation of education, rote learning without stress on the holistic development of the child has become the norm.

Education to most of us in India has been about gathering as many fancy degrees as we can. With the imbalance between good schools and our population, parents have also quite justifiably mostly focused on academics. Unfortunately, somewhere in the rat race, the core of Education, Knowledge and Learning, has got lost.

‘You can impose a certain discipline on children, dress them into a certain mould, lash them into a desired path, but unless you can get their hearts and natures on your side, the conformity to this imposed rule becomes hypocritical and heartless, a conventional, often a cowardly compliance’ – Sri Aurobindo

As a young mother, I was pretty much the same, but the entire paradigm of education changed for me when we moved to London, UK for a couple of years and I was introduced to the Montessori system (founded by an Italian doctor). The irony is that I was introduced to it by a Japanese friend – An Indian parent introduced to an Italian system by a Japanese in the UK.

For readers who are new to Montessori, this method of teaching was introduced by Italian physician and educator, Dr Maria Montessori. A paediatric doctor, she would often observe children in her care. Soon she developed the material and method to educate children with learning difficulties and later on went on to teach low-income mainstream children. She noted that given the right environment, free choice of education material, uninterrupted work and freedom of movement and activity under limited adult supervision resulted in better learning.

I was intrigued by the system and attended numerous sessions. The key difference was the mixed age classrooms where the teacher played the role of a facilitator and let each child operate at their pace without force-fitting a curriculum. The children were free to explore the various activities in the classroom and had the liberty to pick any activity they liked. The activities / materials have been designed keeping the learning needs at various ages / stages of development, e.g., motor skills at an early age, being independent at a slightly later age and social and cognitive skills as they turn 6-8 years old. The focus is on discovery and invoking basic curiosity in the children. By doing this, the Montessori system prepares them to be life ready and better individuals.

Outside of what parents impart at home, children spend considerable time at schools which forms the building blocks to shape them and in turn, the future of our society. While it is not practical to change our education system, I think it is important that we imbibe some of the aspects of alternative systems such as Montessori which can lead to an overall improvement in our society.

In my experience as a mother, following are the key attributes which the current education system does not stress enough upon:

1. Independence – Dr Maria Montessori famously said, “The greatest gifts we can give our children are the roots of responsibility and the wings of independence.” A task completed on their own not only gives them a strong sense of accomplishment, but it also increases their confidence. Everyday activities like choosing their clothes, dressing up, eating on their own, cleaning their cupboards, cleaning up after meals, etc. can help instil a sense of independence. It is worth all the wait and patience, to see the child tie the lace and their eyes light up on their achievement.

2. Responsibility – One of the biggest failures of our incumbent education system has been to celebrate individual success with lesser regard to collective achievements. This has led to a callous approach towards familial, societal, environmental responsibilities. There are multiple attributes of the Montessori system which promote a deep sense of responsibility and social awareness. E.g., (i) Children are trained to clean up their surroundings and ensure the activity area is returned to its original state before they embark on a new activity, (ii) With the mixed age classes, older children are trained to support and guide younger children with their activities, (iii) Every day, one child brings food for the entire class promoting a sense of sharing and caring. A lot of large problems faced by India could be eradicated if we start preparing children from their primitive years, e.g., cleanliness, social harmony, sharing, etc.

3. Empathy – Joint family system naturally leads to strong sense of empathy amongst individuals. Nuclearisation of families leads to undue focus on children, with empathy being one of the biggest casualties. Strong societies are always built on strong empathy. I would recommend workshops with less privileged kids, children with special needs, visits to old age homes, orphanages etc. to be made part of the cur-riculum. Parents and schools should encourage the habit of giving and charity for the needy.

4. Decision making skills – Parents at home and teachers in the school tend to micro-manage everything a child does during a day. In the Montessori environment, every day, the child is required to choose an activity that they want to do. Once chosen, the child organises materials required to undertake that activity, completes that activity, and then keeps all the materials back in their respective place. This cycle repeats every time a child wants to do an activity. This entire sequence of choice, orderly execution, completion and winding up instils number of qualities – decision making, ability to operate on their own and being organised.

5. Curiosity – Children by their very nature are very curious and the present education system tends to suppress their curiosity by force fitting a curriculum. Rishi Kanad or Newton later would not have discovered the Laws of Motion if they did not have curious minds. There should be sessions where speakers from various walks of life take workshops on a variety of topics like current affairs, art, music, history, space science, mythology, business etc.

6. Environment conscious – This is really need of the hour with the clock ticking away. Explaining waste management, minimal and optimal use of plastics, farming (a lot of schools do take children on farming trips to show them the laborious process to grow food and empathise with the farmers) will make the children better citizens of the world.

In a nutshell, the education system should also focus on Emotional Quotient (EQ) and not just on Intelligence Quotient (IQ). High EQ will help children face varied situations more holistically, teach them empathy, resilience and build confidence. In the primary years, the education system should focus on equipping the children with ability to understand their feelings and ways to cope and deal with them.

This news piece was so heartening to see post the World Cup match between Germany and Japan. I would really like to believe their schools have done something right to instil this habit in their citizens.

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About: CA Ankan Gupta Rastogi,

A Delhi girl by heart living in Mumbai for the past 10 years, she now loves both cities. Chartered Accountant by profession she works with a CA firm for the past 10 year. She is a good listener, people friendly and likes to mentor her juniors. She likes reading non-fiction and Indian mythological books and watching documentaries on various subjects. She constantly strives to contribute to saving the environment in her own small ways, from curtailing unnecessary purchases, to instilling the habit of reuse in her children.

She can be reached on : ankan.gupta@gmail.com